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41-50,
*igh fidelity
writes:I've been with my girlfriend about one year now and I really love her. We tend to fight a lot but always talk it out and are better. Last month I was having a drunken stupid conversation with this one girl I used to work with. We both liked each other a lot and over the internet we expressed how we both felt back then and expressed regret. I told her that I would give up a lot to have a chance with her. Well I really don't feel like that at all. I love my girlfriend and it was a stupid conversation that should have never taken place. Well the other night my girlfriend found the archive in the messenger while I was gone. Needless to say that when I got home she wasn't there. I talked to her all night apologizing and all she could muster was hateful words and expressions of ... well pure hatred for me. I really care about her a lot and want her back. She has deleted me from her life almost completely. We fought a lot during the relationship but I still love her. What should I do???
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reader, lisa21  +, writes (7 September 2007):
if i was your girlfriend i would have left you as well!how would you feel if your ex had said that to another man?put yourself in her shoes, would you stick around???
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reader, broken babe +, writes (6 September 2007):
 it was wrong of you but the best thing to do is get her voicemail get an even sincere voice say somthing like "im so sorry that i was very wrong i shouldnt bring up the past because that was before you i love you no matter what i love you i always will so please forgive me... i love you"" thats what my boyfriend did and it made me cry when he said i love you at the end BUT!!!! you have to know you mean it if not she wont be with you long you better earn up to it if she takes you back you better adore her
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reader, Skeez +, writes (6 September 2007):
 I'm sorry love but I think this is your own doing and I dont blame your girlfriend to chuck you out of her life. what you did was a very nasty thing to do. and im glad you realise that. She found a convo of you and another girl talking lovingly to each other. and you telling her the things you would give up just to be with her. Now if I saw this on my boyfriends messanger I would have no intention but to dump hima nd want nothin to do with him ever again.Yeah you say it was a drunken mistake..but not many girls will take it as a mistake. And you say you liked this girl alot. but thenyou say you dont like her at all. well which one is it??I think you should move on with your life and let your ex move on with hers. shes been betrayed. Use this as a lesson to not do it ever again if yu dont want to ruin a perfect relationship. If she doesnt want to talk to you. leave her alone.Pushing her to speak with you will just make things worse.But If you do find a quiet time to talk with her then great. Apologize so much that your heart comes out of your mouth aswell (not literally) If she is willing to get back with you then awesome but dont expect her to trust you for a very long time. Cut all contact with this other girl. Dont even mention her at all coz that will just make things worse. I hope whatever you and your ex will choose it will end out ok in the end. and that you wont cheat on your girlfriend and other girlfriends ever again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2007): Bro you skrewed yourself!!!! Give up and chase the other girl to get your mind off of your ex. She needs time anyway and take it from me the one who's cheated on always want the one who cheated back always. Go enjoy your youth you're still young!!!!
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