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writes:Hi, I'll try to make this short. Me and my ex dated for 2 1/2 years, we lived together for the last year. I loved her with all my heart and so did she. She broke up with me when our lease was up, about 2 months after she turned 21, (I'm 23). She said because I'm jealous and controling. I admit I was a little but not much compared to most, she is very good looking and gets a lot of attention. This was 6 months ago. We have been off and on, no contact for a couple of weeks, then we would get back for a week, so on and so forth till today. It's been a month since we last were together. She wrote me a letter the last time telling me her undying love, how she could not be without me! Then after being with her for a few days she said she only remembered the good things and not the bad so we broke up. I love this girl, she always pops in my head, I miss her and the times we had, how we were so good for each other. Now I text her, she always replies but with minimal response. I wish we were back together but I don't want it to be all my effort and none of hers. She was seeing a guy, I was seeing a girl. I just don't know where to go from here. I don't want to look back saying what if in the future. thanks for any help I get.
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reader, Garm +, writes (18 December 2009):
I found myself in a similar situation and the cost was too high. It was all my effort and she would provide none.
I still think about her constantly, but I've realized my fond memories are of her when she was so into me that we both were putting in vast effort--because we both wanted to. Now she's self-centered and can't compromise.
It's hard, but I need to move on. So do you.
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reader, Brown/Eyes +, writes (18 December 2009):
Brown/Eyes is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you garm, i think i needed to hear that. im still pretty confused on what to do. like i said i still think about her, i tryed dating again but she always pops up in my mind. i just dont know?
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reader, Garm +, writes (17 December 2009):
Things will never be the same as they were in the beginning. If you can both accept that, then there's a chance. If you can compromise, which takes effort on both sides, about the things that you dislike about one another, then you can enjoy one another again. Of course, the benefit would have to vastly outweigh the cost.
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