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writes:Dear Agony Aunts, Thank you for all the help you've given me for the past year or so, i truly thank you for reading and understanding. The situation is i'm currently with my girlfriend for almost 1 and a half years now. Something unfortunate came and I was forced to moved schools. For the past 6 months i haven't seen her. 3-4 Months ago she confessed she had kissed another guy to protect me. Because of this, there has been a lingering doubt in my mind of her kiss to him. There's approximately 2 years left untill i can be with her and know she's safe everyday. I'm finding it very hard to live each and every single day by myself. I know its not right. The thought of her kissing a guy in a attempt to protect me gives me the most horrible nightmares each night and most of the time i end up in tears. When i got into this relationship i thought it would be like "2 years later ..." in those cheesy movies. The question which i really need an answer to is; how am i suppose to deal with this long distant relationship? I've tried phone calls, videos, pictures but they have become dull to satisfy my love towards her. Sincerely, ____________________ :)
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (3 July 2009):
 First of all, how is kissing somebody else protecting you? I am totally oblivious to this and it doesn't seem to make sense to me. How do you know she doesn't secretly have a boyfriend behind your back? Exactly, you don't. That is the problem with a LDR.
Anyways, long distance relationships are a hassle, they need alot of patience and the two people in them have to be faithful and strong minded or else you will never make it.
My boyfriend and I we're in a long distance relationship
for the past nine months. It was a long nine months that almost drove us apart. Sometimes I just thought to myself, I need to end this and I could of given up, but now I am glad that I hadn't because he moved back to my home town and it was worth every minute that I had to wait.
Now the problem with you is, you haven't seen her for six months already, and you won't be able to see her for another two years.
Look into the future for a minute here, do you think two years from now, you will even remember why you loved her in the first place? You are still young and you shouldn't put your life on hold for a girl you aren't going to see for that amount of time.
I hate to break it to you, but it's probably not worth it. You have to ask yourself if you are strong enough to handle this. Do you think you will ever have peace in your mind with the distance that will keep putting a strain on your relationship? You will be constantly worrying, as will she.
There is more to life then this, so don't waste almost three years of your life on a girl youre not even suppose to be with in the end. Think of this way, while your sitting around waiting for this girl, you could let the girl your actually suppose to be with pass you by.
I hope I gave you something to think about, I know you will do right in any desicion you make.
Be strong my friend.
xx
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