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anonymous
writes:i have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. im almost 20 and hes 23. we have a very loving relationship, care about each other greatly, love spending time together and can always make each other giggle.however i think im the kind of person who always wants too much. when i read back to the things he used to text me when we first got together i realise how amazing it used to make me feel, the things he said were so lovely. he still does make me feel very special, occasional lovely texts, flowers, taking me out etc, but i feel like now he has me he doesnt make as much of an effort anymore... i know he loves me, and the stuff at the start of the relationship always fades when you feel more comfortable with each other, but how do i make it feel fresh again? any ideas? btw before i hear comments such as "spice up your sex life" we do have an amazing sex life, i just miss the way he wants me to fall for him etc. thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2009): lol this is exactly like me and my bf
i miss how it was when he would try impress me... really want my love and would go out of his way to do things for me all the time.... now it seems like he just takes me for granted
weve talked about it heaps before
recently we got into fight and i dumped him- feeling sad and unappreciated and hoping he would beg for me back
he didnt exactly beg for me back but we got back together which was good because i was a wreck without him and i missed him heaps
spontanoeity is good for keeping things fresh... and surprises
ive started doing little things for him... presents not on any special occasion but just because i love him...
and hopefully he will return them soon...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): i see your point of view as i feel exactly the same with my boyfriend and (no offence intended) i dont think the two answers below are what you had in mind, am i right? your looking for a way to make your boyfriend make more of an effort?
my thoughts are:
1) 'play hard to get' .. as a relationship progresses and you become more comfortable with eachother, its easy to fall into a routine such as "hey baby wanna go out tomorrow?" and you will quickly say "yes!!", try teasing and maybe saying "hmm im not sure, ill have to check my diary :P"
2) 'talk to him about it' .. though personally i wasnt too keen on this idea as i thought he may become offended if i suggested he didnt love me as much as before? though an easy way of doing this could be by saying like "awww i was reading through my texts last night, look at this, see how cute you were to me before?!"
please let me know if this was of any help !! much appreciated !!
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reader, lodge123 +, writes (22 February 2009):
a looovely romantic evening- just suprise suprise suprises for him? then u ask for the favour back?
or u talk to him about how u have slight concerns becos u think he doesnt love u as much as he used to- then he will be on his knees.
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