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writes:How can I make our phone conversations better? He lives 45 minutes away so i cant just see him in person every day.but we do fine in person or chatting online,but when it comes to the phone its like we both dont have a lot to say.Neither one of us are phone people,but when he calls i feel like an idiot and like im going to blow it because i cant think of what to talk about.I feel boring,and im really not a boring person so i dont want him to think i am.What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, derek11223  +, writes (13 January 2009):
Hi. This is my advise for you, it is very hard sometimes to talk on the phone a lot of the time it does not matter too much what you talk about as you only want to hear the other persons voice. What i would try to do is ask questions that require more than a yes or no answer for example ask when you were young what things did you like doing on your birthdays or where did you spend your holidays as a child and what things did you do to enjoy them, with these responces you will then find that in answer to his answers you will then speak about your holidays birthdays etc. If you ask questions like "did you have a nice day" you will get a yes or no answer that then leads you into thinking of something else to ask. Ask what things he likes to eat that leads you to talk about things you like to eat. When talking about sport ask if football how long have you liked that team and what made you like this team initially. above all try to think of subjects that you can talk about too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): Well you could just ask him about his day, what he did. And then if that doesn't start any stories tell him about yours. Or if your watching something particularly interesting tell him to go to that channel too and watch it with you and that can start a conversation. If all else fails play 20 questions. Lol. Please write back if none of these work I will make sure to give you more ideas.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2009): my self and my bf were like that wen we first start datin and i felt like a sap everytime he rang it was like m m m wat will i say just talk about things youve done that day or ask him how his day was and let him start it then you reply back with how yours was and a few bits of wat you done weather it be a bad day or good im now with my bf 4 years belive me you'll fine planty to talk about once you start ha hope this was help full to you xxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, Jenni2878 +, writes (13 January 2009):
 start with a really excited hiiiiiiii. ask how his day was tell him how your day ws. just talka bout everything. my husband has been in brasil for 2 years. he comes home in march. we talk online all day and some phone calls to thruout the day. those are soimportant. voice is great... just talk to him about everything and dont worry so much about it.
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