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*ikiki
writes:Hiya. I've been secretly in love with my male friend for six years and recently he got a GF and didn't tell me and when found I out I was soo hurt. It felt like voltage going through me. So then and there I decided to stop being madly in love with him. I tried to stop thinking about him and remembering. I sorta found someone new and got over him. Honestly I don't feel about him as I did before. I'm able to ignore his messages, not worry what he says to me and I can maintain eye contact with him and talk about him calmly with ease and not blush but the trouble is I find myself verbally reminding myself 'I don't love him/I don't love you'.Does this mean I still love him? I don't know what to do.Thank you for your help and time. Reply to this Question
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (13 January 2009):
 Well, im in a similar situation. i love a woman so much that i just cant bring it to myself to tell her. she's the one golden fish in the sea, the one that is so unique you can't let go. Like you with your love.
What i did was to get over it i built a really good friendship with her, i believe she thinks i still like her or questions this sometimes in her mind, and yes i once told her at the beginning i liked her but it was not recipricol, so i developed a very good friendship with her one that i can alway talk to her. but I never get to see her that much anyway... we buy each other presents and celebrate important dates like NY christmas birthdays with each other and somtimes go out to the movies or drinks. but i know im not her BF so i just remain friends... its trualy a unigue feeling.
So the best advice i can give is to be his friend, establish this well and before you know it you will end up loving being his friend. Its a truly unique feeling and its great when you love somone so much that if you get to a point where its ok that they do not know.
The problem for you is it might be hard as he now has a GF, so id just send him a friendly email or call once in a while, mabey make a point that yoiu used to like him but you want to be friend because he's obviously like your Benjamin Button, or Forrest Gump ;)
good luck :)
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reader, Jenni2878  +, writes (13 January 2009):
 six years holy crapppp girl!. have u ever told him maybe he loves u back. maybe he didnt tell u about her caused he loved u. and yes that means your still in love with him good luck mama
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