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writes: hey,so i have some major problems when it comes to my body i hate every inch of it from my vainy feet , past my chucky cellulite thighs to my dry hair, i have good days were i am happy and can stand to look in the mirror , but then i have bad days i feel desgusting my body repulses me and all i want to do is stop eating and cut my fat off, i hate myself and need help to sort out how to make myself feel confident in my own skin but i feel like i cant do this without loosing weight and a lot of it !! i am just desgusting how can i make myself either beautiful and skinny, of happy and blind to the way i look , any tips? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2013): Indeed, get professional help... We all care, we all believe you are beautiful even though you may not see it. It's all in perspective...Remember this:Your vainy feet, get you where you need to go. There are people without legs that wish they could walk. People in wheel chairs that wish they could do what you do.Your thighs, you see the cellulite, to others having legs would be a dream come true, fat or thin. See your body as a miracle, that gives you life and allows you to navigate through it, instead of the critical harsh judgeBuy shampoo and conditioner for dry hair, and use it regularly and see if it helps. Appreciate your hair, some people have cancer and have to have it cut off. See the blessings, the glass half full instead of half empty.You and your body are not disgusting, it's just a temporary vessel that is out of control. Seek to get balance in your life, in all aspects, and you will see the good...Being skinny does not automatically make you beautiful. Work on your personality, who you are, what you want in life, your purpose. Then get balance in your beliefs, faith, physical, spiritual, mental, career, hobbies, sports, interests, family, friends, etc. You are worthy, you just don't know it yet.Please go for therapy where a professional can tell you what we already know: you are special and someone loves you as you are.Take care.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (13 August 2013):
 I had a friend who felt just like you. She was my best friend at the time. She asked me for my honest opinion on whether she was fat. I told her the honest truth, that she was chubby. She said to me (and this is something i quote her on) "Dionee', once i hit high school, i'm losing weight". It was her choice and i stuck by her the whole way through. Today she is not slim but she is curvy whereas she used to be chubby. She loves herself now, she even dresses better and smiles more, it's amazing. I'm not saying lose weight, i'm just saying that if you feel that that its what you've got to do to feel better about yourself then why not? If it will make you look at yourself in the mirror as "hot" instead of "disgusting" then i say do it but only after talking to someone who can really help you and will understand what you're going through and support you til the end. You need somebody who understands you (a professional) sothat if you do decide to lose weight then you won't become obsessed and develop anorexia or any other malnutrition or disorder. Be careful and please don't harm yourself. Try instead to focus on taking yourself out and spoiling yourself by having your hair done or your feet done etc. It will help make you feel good. Just remember, you are beautiful, and others think you're stunning nomatter how bad you see yourself.Goodluck OP
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2013): Everyone has days where it feels like they only notice their "flaws".
Try to change your perspective. When you look in the mirror, try to notice what is good, not what is bad.
You can also go shopping for flattering clothing and a new hairstyle.
If you are that unhappy, try to find the motivation to lose the weight. I know this is easier said then done, but complaining about your extra fat isn't going to make it go away. Exercise and a sensible diet will. I'm not trying to be mean because I am guilty of being like you, but logically I know that if I'm really that unhappy with my pudge, it's only going to go away if I do something about it.
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