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writes:I am 33 right now and my girlfriend is 23. 8 years back, when she was 15 , I fell in love with her and within 2 weeks she accepted my proposal of being her Boyfriend but I acted more like a friend than boyfriend since she was too young than . I belong from rich family and I didn’t tell my parents until recently and their response was kinda mixed since she belongs to lower class but will be able to changed there and we got married 6 months back. Due to my vigorous exercise regime and chemistry between us , the age difference doesn’t look that big. I have supported her studies and she got graduated in filmmaking recently. Actually, me too wanted her become filmmaker but my dad didn’t like that idea and made me do MBA to run his business. So when my wife got done with her high school diploma and looking for advise on which field she should choose for further studies, I told her about filmmaking and she liked it quick time. Recently, she showed me her short film and I got stunned to see how creative she is and she truly made me proud. Now the problem is that I have told her few days back that she should open her own production house and I would finance it but she refused it saying I have done enough for her but she doesn’t know that without having her own production house , her entire life will get spend breaking into this competitive industry. I want her to win Oscar and it can only happen if she has own production house with unlimited freedom of making films on different subjects. So how should I pursue her change her mind? I am her husband now and she shouldn’t consider financial help from my side consider as favor, right? Looking forward to you guys’ help on this! Thank you!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (27 October 2011):
 you should let her know the money is there if she wants it and then love her enough and respect her enough to let her make her own decisions on what she wants to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2011): Wow! you are such a good husband. However, let your wife decide on what she wants to do.
best of luck
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reader, uroboros  +, writes (26 October 2011):
i can see you really live her and you want whatever's best for her, but u need to understand that purchasing a production company for her is kind of big deal. i dont know how wealthy you are, but regardless on your financial status it is a hell of an expensive gift!
if she does not want to accept it, don't be angry, be happy you don't have a promiscious wife :)
there are so many other ways you can support her.
good luck.
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (26 October 2011):
 You're living your own dreams through her. You are the one that wanted to go into the film industry, but your dreams were derailed by your father. You choose to listen to your father and get your MBA instead of doing what you really wanted to pursue. Now you're pushing your wife to do what you would do if you were in her situation. If she doesn't want to do something, you need to let her be. Just recognize that this opening a production house and winning an Oscar are your dreams and wants - not your wife's.
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