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writes:For the past years of my life, every summer holiday we have gone as a family, me, my parents and my two younger brothers, often taking our cousins, either my aunt and uncle with a young girl and a boy, or my auntie and uncle with two young boys.As you can imagine, these holiday's are really boring for me. We always go to beautiful but very remote parts of france or italy, in large old farm houses.This year, we are going with my bestfriend and her family. It will be great fun, as we are going to a more city based place, minutes away from the beach, and not only has it's own pool, but a shared one also.me and my best friend would love a holiday romance, and we think that with all these people around we're bound to find one. But my mum just can't be happy about the holiday.She's always grumbling about how much it's costing, or how horrible its going to be, the pool will be too small, there will be too many people.What can I do to make my mum realise that a family holiday can't just please her?Please help.Sorry I babbled on abit.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (2 July 2008):
 Why don't you go on the net and find out if there is a day spa near where you will be staying? It would be a nice surprise to give her a day of rest and relaxation!
You know, often, for Moms, a holiday is just another day of cooking, cleaning and laundry in a place that doesn't have every convenience that she is used to, so cut her some slack. It wouldn't hurt for you and your friend to consider this and bus dishes "Without Having To Be Prompted" as well. Having a vacation as a child and being the Mom on vacation are two entirely different things. Just think, the only thing that you are responsible for is to pack your own suitcase. If you forget something OR get sick, who's responsibility is it then? Right - Mom's.
Perhaps now you can understand a bit why Mom's don't view vacations and holidays in quite the same way as you do, because she is doing all the work, worrying about the expenses and worrying about whether everyone else is going to have a good time or not...
So, make sure that you take the time to think about everything that your Mom has done in order to give you this vacation and be grateful and appreciative towards her, someday, it will be your turn to organize all of this and be the Mom. Right now, you can help improve her mood by pitching in without her having to ask. She will be pleasantly shocked! And very appreciative! The nice thing about being all together in the kitchen is that it is a great place for conversations too. Ask her about the vacations that she went on when she was your age!
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