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writes:18 months ago I got a huge promotion at work, there is an annual weekend getaway for everyone in my division. The only problem was it was for couples and I was single I wanted to make a good impression so I hired an escort. Something I had never done before and never thought I ever would do. Things worked out really well, she was a younger girl, very sweet and the enitre company loved her. We didnt do anything sexual, we held hands around the camp fire and that was it. I even slept on the floor of our room so she could have the bed. The only problem was we started getting invited to all kinds of events as a couple,I made up a lot of excuses like she was studying, went to visit family etc, until finally I ended up hiring her again. It became a very regular thing, almost weekly. After about 6 months we went away to a cottage weekend with a few other couples and after many drinks we had sex, it was amazing, the whole weekend was not just the sex. Afterwards I wasnt sure what to do, when I first went to the company she worked for they said sex was frowned upon and that wasnt what they were used for. So I didnt know if I paid her, if I tips her or if I just let it go. I didnt want her to be upset so I confided in one of my very best friedns that she was an escort and he told me that I should give her some money with out the company knowing so I did. HUGE MISTAKE. when I gave it to her she ran into the room in tears, when I asked her what was wrong she said she wasnt an ``òver paid hooker`and that she had never slept with a customer before.She said that she made a promise to her self that she would never lower her sèlf to do that. When I asked her why she did it then she said that I was different, she said that I always treated her with respect and that even though she kept telling herself not to she felt like she was falling for me. When she said that I felt a huge sigh of relief because I was totally falling for her too. We talked for a really long time and I found out that she and her older brother had left her family when they were both in high school because her dad was adrug user and very abusive, so they moved out. She was tring to pay for not only college for herself but help her brother and pay to live. She said she was working two jobs and still couldnt make enough, so a friend of her told her about being an escort and she said that after ever date she would go on she would come home and sit in the shower and cry, she said she felt cheap and dirty but she knew on the long run it would pay off so thats why she did it. I felt bad for her but at the same time I could see that she was an amazingly strong person to do what she was doing. I ended up kissing her and that was pretty much it for us. We started dating and have been together ever since. I have never felt so in love with some one in my life. None of my family knew that she was an escort, she asked me if it was something we could kept between us. At our recent engagement party my friend started making jokes about how we met. he made several comments about her being an escort, she was horrified and embarrsed. She thought that I had told everyone. Few members of my family were shocked to say the least, a few of the keep asking me what I am thinking marrying a ``hooker``.she is so self consciene that my family hates her that she no longer what to be around them. My sister is being very supportive and has tried to talk to her but she wont listen. What can I do to make her see that I dont care what others think I love her and iam do proud to be marrying her. amd how can i make my family and her see that she is the perfect girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2010): While it's too late to go back and change things, I'd rethink your friendship with the friend you told. Obviously this guy doesn't know the meaning of "descretion", which makes me wonder what kind of friend he is.
As to the issue of your family, I don't know. Ideally, your GF is marrying you, not them. But then I don't know how close you are to your family and if you could shut them out of your life. At least you have a sister who is being supportive. All I can say is if you truly love your GF, work on showing her how much she means to you. Over time, hopefully your family will come around.
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