A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm VERY new to sex... But all my life I was told that "our kind", being my mom and me, are not "easy to please". I've noticed that what is apparently "pleasurable" to most girls, barely affects me.How can I make it easier for my partner to find out how to take me to that big "O"? I'm afraid I'm so stuck on being told that I'm hard to please that I can't stop thinking about what I should be doing, and what I might be doing wrong.How can I stop thinking so much? I'm mad about him but my mind won't let me alone! Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI can orgasm on my own, and it's not particularly hard, either! Sometimes it takes a little longer, but usually I have results in about 10-15 minutes.
Thank you for the advice on relaxing- I know its fun, I love it! Now I just need to convince him that- climax or no- I still feel good. He seems to be taking it personally that I haven't with him, yet he has with me...
A
female
reader, cd206  +, writes (5 May 2007):
 Okay. My basic question is can you orgasm by yourself? If you don't know how to please yourself it always seems a little silly to want a guy to please you. Experiment with yourself and work out what feels good for you, then show your boyfriend so he can imitate it and remember that sex feels good with or without orgasm so stop being so uptight about forcing it and just relax. That will probably make it easier to come in the long term.
CD
...............................
|
