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female
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writes:hi i have been dating my bf almost 2 years now n soon he is gonna be my fiancé but the thing is i am virgin and he is not and m sure about his feelings, but he doesn't wanna wait for our weeding. we have been talking about that n he is gonna wait till after the wedding but too bad he changes his mind and for me i would love to keep it till after the wedding, that was my dream from long time ago. it like precious moment together been naked n making love for our first time but i was wondering if any has advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): no complaining when you get married and find out hes terrible in the sack!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): You were up front with him about this from the beginning, you didn't want sex until after you are married. And he has agreed to that for 2 years already, I am sure he can last one more year. But, if you do get engaged, maybe not have a long engagement but get married within the first 6 months - 1 year after the engagement. The man loves you and wants to be intimate with you, and the thought of soon having you is probably making him want you even more right now, hence the extra pressure. Don't give in to it! He will love it just as much as you if you wait until after you are married.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (8 February 2010):
 If he's stuck it out for 2 years, why has he changed his mind now? I think you need to stick to what you believe in...don't buckle under pressure. If he's demanding sex from you or pressuring you to do something which you don't want to do before marriage, then ask yourself what kind of a man he is and whether marrying him is a good idea.
If you've believed in this so long and you're almost engaged and married...don't give up now. I wonder why he's changed his mind after two years of being ok with no sex. You got to ask yourself that.
But stick to your beliefs.
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reader, purpleprincess  +, writes (8 February 2010):
Hi I'm very pleased that there is someone who strongly believes in sex after marage. I was brought up in a comunity and close family where this was instilled into me and I held it dear but found that it was hard to find like minded men. Unfortunatly I gave into presure but if I had av been stronger he would have waited as he is very suportive. We have been together 7 yrs and I'm happily engaged. Do wot feels comfortable and natural. Hold your ground if its important to you he will suport u in this desision. Ididnt wait after all and it was just as special that first time. Love is the important thing. Looks like you found mr rite so do what feels right. Good look
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