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writes:I've posted things similar things to this so i would really appreciate any advice and sorry for the length. My ex and i seperated about 2 mths ago and im due with our baby in 5 wks. Our relationship wasnt the best we argued a lot and broke up countless of times. I didnt show him how much i loved him and i treated him bad. He doesnt love me anymore , he has really negative feelings about me he cant forgive me for my mistakes in the relationship and puts me as the only one responsible for destroying his dream of a family and a home with our daughter. So practically im the devil in his eyes because he cant love me or stand me and because our daughter wont have a family after shes born, but he made mistakes too yet for him mine were far more delicate than his because i caused him to stop loving me and pushed him so far away from me. I feel guilty becAuse he blames me everytime he pleases , how can i get him to forgive me and move on with his life and have our baby still be part of his life. I know we wont get back together but i dont want to hear im the only one responsible for my daughter not having dad and mom together. I need some advice , i was hoping maybe after the baby is born he'll realize im not the devil in person like he sees me but now i dont thnk that will happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): I don't think you will be able to truely reverse the way he feels... It will take time.
If you broke his heart but he now has to spend so much time around you it's going to be hard for him to get over you.
If you want him to think of you as a better person just try doing things for him but don't ask for any help.
Hope things work out x
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reader, Waiting for an angel +, writes (2 June 2010):
Waiting for an angel is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy mistakes were not treating him good. I was a b**ch with him. i would drop the arguements when we had problems. Also now he blames me for destroying his dream of having a family with our baby since he cant love me anymore nor stand me. I think hes really hurt because our relationship didnt work out and i know the only thing he wanted was a home and a family with the baby and i. Hes a responsible guy and he is taking his responsibility as a father. I jst want him to forgive me for not showing him how much i loved him, he tells me i wasnt able to keep his love and now we're not together. How can I reverse those negative feelings he feels?
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (2 June 2010):
Things might not be ok between you guys but the baby coming is his as well and he has to be responsible.He should take his duty as the baby's dad.This is something you dont have to beg him for;if he's intelligent enough he'll know that its his duty to take part in upbringing the child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): He sees your mistakes as worse? Of course he does, he will have "reasons" for his mistaakes that he knows because he will actually listen to himself... Does he ever let you explain reasons behind your mistakes or does he just try to make you seem like the bad guy.
It would be really helpful if you could tell us what these mistakes are so we can tell you what we think??
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