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writes:My boyfriend is 24, i am 18.. so of course he has done many things that i have not done, and i know this is normal. But for some reason i can not help but get upset/jealous when his friends bring up past times when he did this and that. Do you think me being in a serious relationship while im this young will cause me to resent him? I mean, most of the time i would much rather stay in with him and do what we do, but im worried i have missed out on partying with my friends. I guess this problem may run deeper, I've made him my everything... I do not want to leave him, I want to marry him, but now that his job switched him over to night shift and im left at home without him feeling hopelessly pathetic with nothing to do.. I realize what ive become is "Jakes Girlfriend" And since ive been with him so long and i'm so used to only being with him and really no one else im socaially retarded. Im sorry this question is as jumbled and random as my mind right now, but i hope that maybe someone could help me get my head out of my butt. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): It's time you built up a life outside of your boyfriend. You need a bit of independence, go on girly nights out with your friends, take up some classes in dancing or other such things.
At the moment you live and breathe at the whim of your boyfriend, if something were to happen and he was suddenly no longer in your life you'd be lost and alone.
You need to start doing things for yourself, because frankly you are missing out on a lot of things, as you said you'd much prefer to be with him and do what you do, which is cool but it's nice to do other things for a change too, experience new things and meet new people and create your own memories like your boyfriend has.
It's nearly the weekend now, give some of your friends a call and see if they have a night out planned, maybe you could go out with them for the night. If not then make a plan with them to meet up sometime soon, maybe go for a coffee or just hang out.
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reader, Hippieman182  +, writes (4 June 2010):
 I understand what you're trying to get across so no worries..I think maybe you should try to find other things to do while he's at work, maybe do an activity that you enjoy. If you end up doing something it'll keep your mind off him for a while and also things won't feel as intense as it may feel at the moment. To do with his mates talking about his past times with other girls if thats what you meant then you should just say to them you don't like to hear it and sooner them talk about it when you aren't around. because i think anyone would get annoyed with that..i know i would. hope things work well for you and that my advise may of came to some help
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reader, mimisoph3 +, writes (4 June 2010):
 u guys arent so bad apart. u need to learn to have a life with and without Jake.i mean wat will happen if u guys broke up u would go into depression! you need to get a few friends if u dont have any then maybe his friends girlfriends or maybe some people u work with. U need to be ur own person u cant have a guy complete u because u will lose ur own self, he has his friends and they like to joke around but where are urs? i think that the reason u are so in love is because its young love for u but him its something serious and he made u believe in that serious relationship because he is done with the bang bang on girls everyweekend. My advice is DONT lose urself remember the times u had before u met him and try to have more of that back. Just becuase his ur boyfriend doesnt mean his ur complete everything ur 18 not even 21 to go out and party so just slow it down the world is definitly not ending tomorrow or any time soon u have time for the marriage life and the family part dont think about it now. The last thing u need is to grow up too fast. Good luck :)
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