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writes:I have been seeing someone for the best part of 5 years, although it has been on-off for the last 2 years. Yes we sometimes argue and its obviously not going to be like the honeymoon period 24/7, but we have so much fun together and so much love between us. We just connect and click, it feels so right.But recently he's been saying that he's sick of trying and sick of silly little arguments that to me are absolutely no big deal at all. I physically can't lose him again, especially if its only for him to say he's sorry and get back with me after all the pain of another break up.How can I make him see that arguments are just normal in relationships and that we were and still are right for each other? I could honestly marry him tomorrow, I'd do anything for him as I'm so in love. Please help, because if he leaves me for good I really don't know how I'll cope. I think he's my soul mate.Thank you so much for any help
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 February 2012):
 IF you are on and off and fighting a lot even about stupid stuff (or especially about stupid little stuff) then perhaps it’s NOT right…
Delightful84 is right… constant arguing and being on and off is NOT a normal relationship. My partner and I disagree about some stuff but mostly it’s a communication issue and we are working on it…
It does not sound like you two are actually good for each other and perhaps dear one you are afraid to be alone… you are so young at 21 if you have been together for 5 years you were together at 16 and I am betting you are just afraid to be alone and go out and find someone who is a better match for you. Being alone if you have never done it is scary.
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reader, thinkb4  +, writes (21 February 2012):
However much you love him, arguments that build up to you being on and off for two years does`nt look like you are as right for each other as you think you are.
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reader, delightful84 +, writes (21 February 2012):
Being on and off and constant arguing are NOT just normal in relationships, unless you enjoy drama.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2012): Resolve the things what you keep arguing about. As you believe its him who should apologise to you and not to both apologise to each other, you may as well leave it as it is to avoid another petty quarrel. You sound anything but soul mates to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2012): Seems he does not love you enough to deal with petty silly arguments he would rather end things
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2012): It may depend on how serious your arguments were. Was they over a lot of minor things or over the same thing? Why does he have to say he's sorry? These arguments may seem like nothing to you but they may be something to him. If someone walks out, then they are not happy.
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