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*lliehoff
writes:These past couple months I have come to realize that Im falling in love with my best guy friend.We have been physical before but have never had sex.He refuses to kiss me on the lips though as he says its too intimate.Which confuses me because why would he want me to touch his penis all the time if he didnt like more than his best friend? He always tells me he loves me,and always hugs me and kisses me on the cheek.He has told me that he could never like me in a romantic way,but I dont know if he's just saying that because i told him i dont like him in "that" way either.Im not conceited but I know Im beautiful and funny and would make an amazing girlfriend.I even went on a date last week to get my mind off of him with this really sweet guy,but i had no feelings towards him.All i know is that thinking about him constantly is driving me insane,he's all i think about.Please give me some tips on how to win his heart over and make him see how good I would be for him.What are some things that drive men crazy for woman?Please help me.xoxo
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reader, xapathyxrebornx  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 Hi hun, ok he says he loves you and stuff but doesn't want to kiss YOU which would mean pleasing YOU yet he wants you to touch HIS penis?
see what im getting at?
Hun to me he sounds like he's using you. I have not to long ago been in that situation. Exactly the same. There was a guy he was all sweet, yeha i was lucky he kissed me but never did anything but yet i did things for him to please him without realising he was just using me and in the end I got hurt.
So either its that or hes confsed hun, thats all I can say, next time he asks you to touch his penis, ask him if he wants you for you, or just your body, tell him these things work both ways and if hes not prepared to treat you as you treat him then look elsewhere and get him out of your head
because hun, your going to get hurt otherwise x
I know it sounds harsh but please hun, it does hun, im just trying to help =]
message me for more info or advice x
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (8 January 2008):
 so... no kissing, but playing with his giggle stick is ok?
you know when i was younger i always thought i was inlove.
and i'm sure you've heard this a million times about "love"
but i think you shoudl think about looking else where.. he sounds like a bit of a head case. with issues of commitment and intimacy issues.
i'll leave you with this which i discovered form a young age.
I don't know what Love is.
But i know what love isn't.
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reader, Nick838 +, writes (8 January 2008):
Hi. I've been in several situations like you, except you're in a better place: you're friends first. It looks like he might be a bit confused as to his feelings for you, as well. I can't really offer much advice, but I can suggest one thing that might help. Body language has helped me in my love life, and I hope that if you choose to use it, it will help you. most books on it will help you, but the one that has helped me most is "The Definitive Book of Body Language," but you can even look it up on the internet (although it usually isn't quite as thorough).
If you don't want to do that, then just be yourself, and show him that you enjoy life. If he still doesn't want to date you, it's his loss.
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