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writes:I've been involved with someone for five years I love him soooooo much. He loves me too but we've never committed to each other. In the beginning we were amzing friends that grew deeper now five years later we barely speak. Ive been fighting for us because I know he loves me I need help. I dont know what to do to make him realize I'm the one for him. He told me he couldnt live without me but he doesnt appreciate me...what to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): Walk away from this one, dear. Seriously, he's not on the same page as you are. Don't let your feelings of attachment to him..cloud your sensible judgement. If this guy loved you, as much as you hope he does..then really, absolutely nothing could take him away from you! His actions are very telling and sadly, he is not the one. Find someone who can love you back, by cherishing you and wanting to be with you a lot and most importantly...a guy who does 'appreciate you for all you give back to him. Hold out for the best, sweety...you deserve that. Give up this fight and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): Hi,
I have to agree with Caring Guy. I was in your shoe. I dated this guy I was deeply and committed-ly in love with. I argued with him too as I have pointed out to him we need to move forward after all we had been trough (we were in the same stage for 2 years - like college couple). In the end, we broke up. No amount of tears will make him feel touched or feel sympathy. He simply stop to bother bout how I was.
So avoid doing the same mistake I did. I am still hurt by his actions. You will be too if you don't realize this fact - he is manipulating you -
Good luck.
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reader, LoverofLove +, writes (9 June 2010):
LoverofLove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much caring guy...makes lots of sense!!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 June 2010):
You can't make him see it if he doesn't want to. And if he doesn't want to, it means that he just doesn't fancy you enough. To be honest, it sounds to me like he's just using you. He wants you around, but won't commit. You need to walk away, or you'll wind up hurt and used when he does finally walk away himself.
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reader, LoverofLove +, writes (9 June 2010):
LoverofLove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAmazing @Youwish thank you so much for that honest answer. We will be 23 but yes I understand what you are saying...Everytime i leave him alone though he finds his way back to me like i dont understand why he just doesnt let me be you know...he makes it even harder..its like he wants his cake and wants to eat it too.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (9 June 2010):
 You both are very young, and if you're 18-21, he's known you since you were 13-15. If he's the same age, most guys at these ages aren't ready to commit to anyone.
You can't fight for him. You have to let him choose for himself. You also have to tell yourself that you are a complete person WITHOUT him. He has to make his own choices, and running after him isn't good for your self-confidence.
I'm not saying that there's no hope for you two, but you can't make him realize that you're the one for him. AND, there might be another guy out there who is the one for YOU. Keep your heart and your options wide open.
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