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writes:I've known my neighbour for slightly over a year and I like him a lot. He has all the qualities of a good boyfriend and eventually husband. He put me in the friend zone long ago and tells me about other girls he likes etc. When other people see us they think we're dating because we look pretty close on the outside but i'd really love to be close to him; to be his bestfriend and girlfriend. I want to be someone he can't do without. I yearn so much for him. How can i make him see me in a different way? I would really like him to be my boyfriend. I can't just tell him how i feel obviously because he doesn't feel the same way. How can i make him like me the way i like him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2013): Everyone always says you can't make anyone do anything, and that's certainly not true. 'Make' is probably not the best word choice though, it's too similar to 'force', which is definitely not what you want to do when it comes to love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question1st anonymous that's not the kind of attitude to have towards life. If you're too afraid to make a change on things you wont achieve much in life. Be more open minded and ready to take challenges.
Intrigued3000, thanks for the tips. I'll surely try those i havent already.
cmmp, i hear your concern but i surely wouldnt allow him to have an upper hand once we started dating. He certainly does now because im trying to woo him but once we're on the same page we'll be equals. Thanks y'all for your output.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (13 October 2013):
I don't know how to answer your question as well as 'intrigued3000' did, but I want to advise you against getting ahead of yourself here. You seem to have convinced yourself that he'll make an excellent husband, but that's only something you can know after dating for a couple of years.
The reason I say this is because if you do manage to start dating him, you don't want it to be a lopsided relationship overwhelmingly in his favor.
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (13 October 2013):
 These are some of the tricks women use to make a man more interested in them:
1. Improve your appearance by getting a new hairstyle or wearing more flattering clothing. Put on a little bit of make-up (but not too much), work out, get fit...so basically dressing up and looking good:)
2. Flirt with him a little bit by smiling at him all the time or making him laugh with silly jokes, and listening intently when he talks. Become his best friend but add some flirtation to the mix.
3. Cook or bake him something delicious. You know what they say..."The way to a man's heart is through his stomach"
4. Compliment him and make him feel good about himself. I think a man appreciates admiration.
5. Ask his advice on things you know he's knowledgeable about. You could even ask for his help with certain things. Playing a little damsel in distress can be very effective.
6. Find your inner confidence. You need to believe that you're a great catch. Self assurance and confidence without arrogance is a very attractive quality.
7. Don't act desperate or too available. The point is to spark an interest in him. Let him see you in a different light, so that one day he'll go..."Hmmmm...I think I like her".
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