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writes: I knew this guy two years ago but he didn't give me the time or place. Just recently he contacted me and wanted to be friends. He's been going threw a hard time, so I have a lot of empathy for him and want to be there for him. I have to admit I live him, and already see him as special because of who he is and what he is going threw. We text and a week ago he really wanted to hangout with me like for a week because he was off. So he hung twice, and then a couple of days ago I went to his house. Well things went a little further than we thought. We didn't have sex but came close. So the pass couple of days he's been at a distance, and made accuses why he didn't want to hangout.. Then he told me, he regretted what we did cause he didn't want to give me the wrong impression that I was his girlfriend cause what he needs is a friend. (Though its kinda too late I already care about him) I told him I was deeply sorry and that I wanted to show him that I could be a friend, and that we didn't need to do such acts again. I also told him that I wouldn't tell anyone what happened. He said that it was ok and that we could hangout soon. (I have serious trust issues, so I doubt it) he still seemed a little distant, but maybe that was because he was tired? I also have to admit that I'm a little clingy. I was wondering if you think that we can move past this (he thinks so). And what should I do or say if he doesn't want to hangout? Could I say something to make him more comfortable? Should I give him time and let him text me? What should I do overall?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 June 2013):
 I agree with Nora, you need to pull back. YOU want the relationship and the whole she-bang. He wanted a sympathetic shoulder to cry on.
Give him time and accept that he MIGHT not be wanting you for a GF, after all he didn't two years ago either. DO you WANT to be his friend? Or do you see this friendship as a way to make it into something more.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (19 June 2013):
Right now give this guy Time and Space.Remain friendly,cheerful and dont do anything else.If you put any pressure on this guy would not be a good idea.Let him text you first .let him make the first move.Time will sort this out to be either just goodfriends or boyfriend and girlfriend.Kind Wishes Nora B.
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