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writes:I'm trying to get over my anger towards my (now) ex, but i can't seem to. i'm so infuriated at what she did to me.The other day we had plans. She cancelled saying she had to go to bed early because she had to get up early. Something felt wrong, so i drove over there later and heard moving around in the living room so i knew she'd lied about being asleep. I knocked and no one answered. i could see shadows through the peep hole so i knew she knew i was there. I kept knocking, still nothing. I finally sent her a text and told her if she didn't open the door we were done for good. she still didn't answer. So i walked down the hall out of sight to see if she'd look to see if i'd left. Sure enough, she's a dumbass and opened up to see if i was gone. i jumped up and confronted her. i blew past her and tried to get into her apartment to see who the hell was in there, but the person on the inside had locked it behind her.I started banging on the door (and broke my hand in the process) and damanded to know who she was cheating on me with. She at that point called the police on me. She claimed "my ex girlfriend is over here and won't leave". I couldn't believe the betrayal. I ran out of there and drove off and had to pull into an apartment complex and turn off my lights and call my roommate come pick me up. so basically, in a nutshell, she lied to me about being asleep, had someone over, wouldn't answer the door when i caught her, and called the cops on me from her own infidelity. She started texting me immediately after saying "i can't believe you made me do that..". i was astonished! so incredibly manipulative. she was acting like I was the CRAZY ONE!! she then started calling and texting telling me how much she loves me and can't see her life without me, and can we please talk, blah blah blah. I told her what she did was unforgivable. The next day after i'd calmed down some, i asked could we sit down and talk face to face; the purpose being for my own sake for closure. She agreed. then only a couple of hours later asked me what the point in talking was. I asked her what kind of an answer was she looking for. Closure or to fix things? She was like "no one said i'm trying to fix anything...". once again..i'm astonished. she'd just hours before begged me to take her back. now she's saying she wasn't trying to fix anything. she said she didn't think we should talk face to face.... at least not yet. So i didn't even get to have my closure. I told her to f*** off after this and haven't spoken to her since. I can't believe she put me through all of this and i feel so angry. I don't know how to let go of this anger i feel; nobody has ever done me so wrong before. Please, i need help in figuring how to put this behind me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): Sever all contact with her and never look back. Case closed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2011): Do you believe in lucky escapes? No doubt your ex did you wrong but be glad you found out what type of person she really was, and turn that anger you feel into relief because no doubt you would have invested more emotional input into this relationship and got burned further down the line.
she is obviously very manipulative and once her fun with the other person is over, she'll be back texting and calling ever reliable you and lying once more. She did you wrong and she'll wait for the storm to blow over without ever acknowledging guilt after all this is a person who would rather call the police and get you a record rather than answer the door and admit she's fooling around. Let her go, she's not worth your anger..minutes are ticking by you cant get back, only one life to live...live it!!
Good luck.
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