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writes:My best mate is with a really bad guy, he lies to her, he over reacts, he plays to the fact she is sweet and feels guilty easly to get his way. We can all see how bad he is for her but she can't or won't. I really hate seeing her this upset it's destroyed her, she used to be happy and bubbly now she is sad and depressed. I just want to help, any advice would help.
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (17 July 2007):
 I agree with LauraE you can't stop your friend loving this guy.
I don't think she can be helped until she can see what this guy is doing to her. She will, eventually wake up and see him what he really is. Maybe she already has but has become so depressed that she hasn't the confidence to chuck him.
Have you tried talking to him? I would advise that you don't slag this guy off to her as she will probably defend him and get angry at you. Just comment that you don't like the way he's treating her and stuff like that.
Hopefully she'll see that you are being a concerned mate.
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reader, LauraE +, writes (17 July 2007):
The frustrating thing is that you can’t stop your friend from loving him. It must be driving you nuts, but if you push it too far, she might chose him rather than you. Keep letting her know that you and her other friends think she’s great, so that he can’t drag her down. Invite her out with the girls as often as you can, phone her for a chat, just keep being her friend. I’m afraid it’s a waiting game, until she needs you to pick her up off the floor when it ends.
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