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female
age
30-35,
*unnygoddess
writes:My boyfriend cheated on me 3 months ago our relationship has been very hard for us since then. I never once suspected he was cheating on me and one day out of the blue he told me the truth and said that it was eating him alive and hes so sorry. It was with his "best friend" and he has done everything he can to make amends his bestie was heart broken since she supposedly was in love with him and he cut ties with her at my wish and takes blame for everything I cried a lot and he was there for me and it means a lot to me that he didnt tell me to get over it and i cant even count the time he said sorry even on times when we werent even talking about it so I know that he loves me and is truly sorry. He still cant tell me why he did it since he doesnt know, but the problem is that even though i forgave him I dont trust him like I used to. I get suspicious often although I dont show it I feel it and im terrified he'll do it again. I love him very, very much, but i dont know what to do our relationship is perfect except for the fact that I dont trust him completely and I dont want to become the obsessive girlfriend. We have made plans for the future and I dont want to be scared of being hurt again. How can I get over this and leave the past behind me?? Ant advice on learning to trust again???
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reader, visione  +, writes (29 January 2010):
 It'll take time for you heal and trust again. It's up to you to forgive him - just keep communication clear between the two of you and make sure nothing leaves you feeling uncertain. You'll need some time to get your thoughts straight and he does as well (he is hurt as well, feeling all his guilt, losing his trust, and watching you upset) - support each other during this time and make your relationship stronger than it was before so this does not happen again. :)
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