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writes:Hi I'm having a problem with my relationship. She is a different country girl. we were very happy for months and all of sudden she is trying to avoid me when I'm trying to talk to her. And I don't know whether she is having another relationship. Pls help how to solve. How can I know whether she is having another relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2007): Hey i had the same problem a couple weeks ago with my boyfriend and I just caught up with him at his moms house and plain out asked him what was wrong and why he was avoiding me in doing so i found out that his friends were making fun of us because he was black and i was white and in asking him i found out that we came closer after are little talk. hope things work out
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reader, Bean  +, writes (23 November 2007):
You'll never know if she is having another relationship unless she tells you. It's very easy to create that as a reality in your mind because she is not offering you any information and she is now avoiding you, but it doesn't mean it's true. Not knowing the whole situation and the extent of the avoidance, I would say that she is moving on and has chosen avoidance as a way out instead of talking to you about it. People find certian things in life very hard to deal with, unfortunately avoidance is a easy and safe avenue for them to escape without facing the other person or she has issues with your relationship and just wants a little space at this time to figure things out. Either way you have no control of the situation and the best thing you can do is speak to her and let her know how you feel and then just let it go. Sometimes when people feel pressured they tend to resist even more. It will eventually work out and you'll know the truth. You'll have to have patience which is much easier said that done. I hope this helps and take care.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (23 November 2007):
Distant relationships are quite tricky as i'm in one and feel just as you feel right now.If you begin to have such thoughts,your relationship won't last.You need to trust her more.Such relationships only work when there's real love all they are purely based on sex such as fuck mates but i figure you don't fall in this category.Well going straight to the point,if it bothers you so much you can hire a private investigator that's if you seriously think she's cheating and you really want to know.She may also be going through some issues and just needs her space.My girlfriend works and is usually tired and all she wana do is sleep and talking to her on da 4n leaves me red so i call her less so she can miss me more and be abit more serious when i call.The most natural process of finding out is to be patient.She can't go on treating you like this forever but tell her how you feel and if she doesn't change,give her an ultimatum.If she truly cares about you,she'll budge but if she doesn't,be strong and move on.
All the best.
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reader, DearDolly  +, writes (23 November 2007):
 I think your best bet is to well ask her why shes avoiding you. Tell her how you feel and ask if you've done something wrong.
Just because she is avoiding you doesn't always mean that shes having another relationship.
And if shes making you have these untrustful feelings then i suggest you consider getting out of the relationship because most relationships like that turn bitter quick since most relationships are based on trust.
Good luck
Dolly.
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