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26-29,
*julia*
writes:Hi well I went to a dance with one of my guy friends and he started like holding my hand a little and stuff and it made me feel so good. He is really nice and sweet. I think I like him now but I don't know how to have him be as close to me as he has been. And since Monday is the last day of school I want to stay close during the Summer. Does anyone know how I can still keep him as close as he was at the dance? Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella +, writes (19 June 2011):
 Hi Julia, that was a magical special night and the memory of how sweet he was will stay with you as it was so memorable. At this stage you can only hope. Though in the mean time you can show some interest in him. But not too pushy, as that might turn him away from you. Keep your hair nice and keep in mind you could run into him at any time. When you do see him do smile at him as you pass him. Not too obvious or your
friends will pick up on it. Just a brief sweet smile. Just so he sees it.
If you see him having lunch give him a tiny wave just as you see him, but sit somewhere else.
If he does approach you, make sure you thank him (if you have not already) for helping make that night so enjoyable, holding your hand etc Then get him talking about him. If you ask him a good question you will not have to ask another one, as he will be busy answering a good question. Ask him ''what do you like most about your favorite subject?'' and then just listen, nod, let him tell you, maybe ask a short clarifying question, but hold off on talking about you. If he has a least favorite subject ask him ''what is it about thay subject that makes it a least favourite?''
By asking open questions he can't give you a yes or no answer. He has to talk. And you get to listen. Guys loved being listened to. Mainly because some girls say far too much.
Don't ask a whole mass of questions, maybe only two, but of the opposite sex nest.
Find out later all his hobbies, where he loves to go on Vacation and activities. But only one question a time, or it might seem like an iterrorgation.
If he has a sister your age then befriend her, it will give you an opportunity to visit and maybe study togeather
But also be prepared for the fact that lwho a guy likes or does not like can change quickly around you age. So be just as pleasant to others too.
But never never too eager to please. It's OK to have your own opinions, say no when you need to etc. And develop some activities or hobbies that you love doing.
Just be yourself. If it is meant to be more of a special friendship then only time and patience will tell or know the outcome.
Hope it works out well
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reader, 3much4u +, writes (19 June 2011):
to stay in contact with him you could get his number or facebook, msn messenger conntact if you both have it. try to plan at least two activities where you could meet this summer. also as a guy my adivce is to dress nice, be sweet (not to soft or else he may walk over you) and see how it goes from there. in closing just take things one month at a time.
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