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writes:This is a little daft asking I think but here goes... I live in uni halls, a block of 16, and our walls are very thin. Last time my boyfriend came over to stay the night my next door neighbour made a joke about being able to hear everything through the walls and although we weren't properly sleeping together at that point, I was quite embarrassed. Anyway my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time at the weekend (I loved it and have no regrets!) though I realise I was pretty loud and am a little concerned about disturbing my blockmates with the noise!! He is coming up on Saturday so I'm hoping most of them will be out in the evening but at the end of the day I live with these people and am someone who embarrasses quite easily! I really want to do it again this weekend though I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions on how to umm... keep it down... or if you have been in the same position? Thanks in advance!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): Well I recomand not screaming in pleasure try to keep It down try making love not just sex try embracing the other while feeling pleasure
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): As you know high decibel sex is only common and the vocalising is usually perceived by the partner as another confirmation that he is pleasing you. That said, maybe you can turn the TV or radio on in order to camouflage the noise, in this fashion you don't have to repress all sounds and emotions if this makes you enjoy the act all the more (maybe just tone it down a little) and at the same time it should help keep down the noise complaints from your neighbours. Other than that, you should not be embarassed (surely you are not deliberately broadcasting the news that you are having sex to your neighbours), and you should also try not to allow this happening to stress you or become an inhibitor during intimacy because this in turn can lead to other problems. Thus if you have the possibility to add background music this may also help you relax apart from turning the "illicit" act probably unnoticeable to foreign ears.
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reader, x_Raquel_x  +, writes (16 February 2009):
 Hi there... I understand what you are saying here... I own my own house...that I live in with my partner, however i do have a housemate... and although he has never said that I am noisy, I know that i am.... so what I do...which also brings some spice to sex is use lace stockings as a kind of gag... i know it sounds a bit harsh... however it is quiet sensual if used in the right way... you can also try food... such as strawberries.
If this doesnt help then ask you man to help by putting his hand across your mouth gently.
My advice is to experiement with different things and see what helps.
Love Raquel.xXx
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