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writes:i need help. i get jealous pretty easily when my girlfriend talks to other men. I confess, it all started with my last gf who i didn't go out with for long, but she cheated on me anyway but broke up with me before things got serious (as far as I know). Anyway, every time she seems to laugh with a guy, i get envious as i fail miserably at trying to make her (or anyone laugh). Please someone help, as i don't want to force her away because of my jealousy
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reader, deborah69 +, writes (24 February 2007):
i always feel jealously and insecurety put there by the other person they make u feel that way like for instance if i was on the phone i would say who it was weres as my ex he wouldnt want put my mind at rest like would like me guessing or if there was somebody at the door he would say its nobody it starts off like that little things and not telling were they are
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reader, AskEve +, writes (24 February 2007):
 Feelings such as jealousy are based on fear and do not come from love at all, we say we feel like this BECAUSE we love the person but this isn't the case at all. Jealousy comes from wanting to possess and wanting to own or have. One cannot own another being or even the mind of another being. One being cannot live for another. Remember that FEAR stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear immobilizes and makes it virtually impossible for people to think effectively because it bypasses the pre frontal cortex and goes directly to your right brain emotional center and is thus not even analyzed first!
Feelings such as guilt and worry are in the same category. See what benefits you could possibly derive from sitting in your favourite chair and contemplating as well as experiencing these feelings intensely for a few hours? None of course because they do not deliver any benefit other than getting you into an even greater state of fear. So you see, that jealousy, guilt, fear and worry all belong in the trash bin because they do not deliver any benefit whatsoever. Love on the other hand will get you to understand and be less fearful. This in turn will make it possible for you to experience joy and bliss.
Remember always: You have a mind, your feelings come from your mind therefore you can control your feelings. In other words, YOU are in charge and nobody else. YOU determine the future. And you become what you THINK. Be careful because the universe will deliver that which you THINK!
Eve
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