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26-29,
*oveyouforever
writes:I've had this crush on this guy for 4 years and when he asked me out, I was so thrilled. We have been dating for 5 mouths now. But 3 of those months have been on the rocky side. I was getting a feeling that my boyfriend had a crush (huge one) on my best friend. We always hang out and they flirt with each other. When I asked my best friend if she had a crush on him, she said no. Rumors have been going around that they like each other and I look like the fool. I always have to see them laugh together and I'm watching them because I don't know what to do with my hands or legs. I just stand there. They tell each other everything and I feel so sad every time they say something to each other. I love my boyfriend and I want to stay friends with my friend. What do I do to keep them apart but yet I can still have them both?
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reader, iSmil3y  +, writes (14 May 2009):
Sit down with them both and let them know how you feel. Tell them you want them to be honest with you and ask your boyfriend and your best friend if they like each other. If they don't feel comfortable talking with you, around each other then talk to them at different times but get the truth and if you still feel like they're flirting and everything then dump your boyfriend. Friends aren't worth losing over guys and there will be more time for other guys in the future, you'll find a guy that'll be everything you want, you're still young.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): Your friend and your boyfriend shouldnt do this in front of you, or behind your back either. Its just wrong.
Tell them how you feel, and see what they say. It is wrong, if theylike each other, for your boyfriend to string you along.. and it is also wrong if your ''friend'' wants to be with YOUR boyfriend and is clearly acting on it because she is flirting with him.
All i can say is talk to them about it. Its not fair on you to stay with a guy who is interested in your friend, and my opinion is, that if your friend wants to pursue your boyfriend, then she is not your true friend.
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reader, Heartbroken-xx +, writes (13 May 2009):
Tell them both how you feel. Tell them how uncomfortable you are with the situation. If your friend was really your friend she would back off a little, and if your boyfriend really cared, he would do the same. Tell your boyfriend to stop playing with your feelings, and get him to tell you straight up how he feels for you, or he's gotta go.. and maybe your friend too.
Best of luck
xx
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reader, pink15 +, writes (13 May 2009):
 sweetie....they obviously like each other. If your bf and bff keep on flirting in front of you, that means they have no respect for you, therefore he is not a loyal bf, and she's not a loyal friend. even though she says that she doesnt like him, you can tell she does, or she likes the attention. She would never tell you that she likes him because she's probably not that dumb. But take my word that he will dump you and go out with her, and you will lose your best friend.
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