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writes:I've been searching this site for any similar situation to read from but can't, so here I go.To put the whole situation quite shortly I live in a small close-knit neighborhood where you see everyone all the time. I have found out recently that a mentally handicapped man/boy(childlike) has a crush on me, which is sweet and he's a good guy but I'm having a few issues. I'm 16 and have seen him the hallways at school occasionally helping out with the janitorial staff and say hi, didn't see him out of the norm. A while ago his he nd his mother started volunteering at the animal shelter I work at. Apparently he talks about me a lot, points and says I'm pretty, or will offer me a drink of his soda. I'll be alone in the office with him and it's kind of awkward. The handicap doesn't bother me like it did when I was a child, I act normal, but I don't know how to interact with him. The guy is almost 28 and to be quite honest his disability is one that lays a grim future, and it's started. He's starting to get bad so should I try to put in an effort to pay extra attention to him, and if, how so? You can't really 'talk' to him, and he mostly just responds or speaks with one word answers which makes me feel sort of uncomfortable because I don't know what to say to him. If you understand what I'm trying to ask, please any advice is welcome.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (16 July 2010):
There's nothing really special you can do. If you don't fancy him, treat him as you would a friend that you don't fancy. Be a friend, but don't give him the wrong impression.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): I do treat him normally, should I give him special attention and if so since he likes me.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 July 2010):
Speak to him as if he was anyone else. I worked as a salesman once, and had to deal with a person who was deaf. And I spoke directly to the deaf person, whilst her sister told her in sign language what I was saying. She really appreciated it because she said (her sister translated the sign language) that I was the first person who'd talked directly at her and treated her normally. So treat him as you'd treat a normal person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2010): My question isn't really about awkward, it's just if I should treat him differently then norm and if so, how. The site created the title.
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