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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone!This is a situation I've never really tackled before so excuse me if I sound a little naïve.My best friend of several years recently started dating a guy who I just can't seem to get along with.Her and I traditionally spend a lot of time together ( we both used to live in residence together and became used to one another's company.) Of late I've been trying to spend less time with her to make some space for the new man in her life, he's a very sweet guy and he clearly adores her but him and I just don't seem to click personality wise . I've made an effort to spend some time with him to try to get to know him, but he's a few years younger than her and I and I feel like it's preventing us from establushing a friendship. He's mentioned to her that he doesn't like how much time her and I spend together and always seems uncomfortable when it's the three of us.What can I do to help him integrate into our friendship? I don't want it to be awkward between him and I because we both want what's best for her.Thanks for your suggestions! CC
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2014): by the sound of things your friend needs to make time to spend with you and time to spend with her bf separately.It is natural to be annoyed that she wants to divide the amount of time she spends with you, with someone who you dont particularly get along with. it is mice for all three of you to spend time together occassionally but not too regularly because it will always seem like you or her bf is tagging along to your frind. as far as integrating him into your relationship is concerned try to do something that he enjoys so he wont feel less a part of what is going on.Try to find some common ground between all three of you also which will make conversation flow easier, hope this helps, good luck ! cx
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