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writes:ok here is the deal fellow cupid readers i have been in a LDR with my bf for a month now and it wont be another month until i can see him again, i think about him non stop and it is around the time of my GCSE'S but my distraction isnt the issue although ways to stop thinking about him too much is much appreciated. it is the fact that when we were "just friends" (i knew he liked me but i was still figuring things out ) we had an argument as i had friend zoned him and then we got into an argument because apparently i was leading him on and flirting with him when i was under the impressiin we were just friends anyway because of this he as annoyed and called me a fake two faced b***h it was odd how like a week later we started going out but the point is i rly like him but cant seem to fully forget him callimh me two faced and fake any uggestions how to forgive and forget the guy i love much appreciated ty x
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (20 September 2014):
 It seemed like you gave in because you didn't like the ambiguity so you decided to date him. He was immature and was unable to handle his emotions. People have the right to flirt, friend zoned or not. You are worried because if he called you names when he got emotional, then when you do get together in the future he would do that again. When you said you were thinking about him all the time I thought you missed him. You are actually worrying if it's a good idea to continue with him. Maybe you went out with him because you felt bad that you could be leading him on, and he went out with you because he couldn't stand being friend zoned any more. Only time can tell whether what you have is real. You have to be honest with him and tell him that he is not to call you names ever again. For future reference, it is hard to be friends with guys who like you. Guys have very fragile egos, so even for just one time you say you have to think about it, or when the answer is not a resounding yes they already feel like failures. It would be naive to think that you can still have fun and flirt without confusing the guy. I understand you are very young and you have all the right to take it slow or think about it, but with guys it's either date or forget about him. At least that's how they think. When the relationship starts with a friendzone, then he will always doubt how much you like him.
I am not saying you need to break up with him now, it's just that it will help you make decisions better regarding which guy to pick when you meet more guys. So you have an idea of who you like, and not just get with a guy because flirting is wrong and confusing. You can get attached to any guy, but the most important thing is that you like the guy inside and out and have no doubts about him. Right now his comment and the distance are leaving you doubts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2014): Hun,I was pretty much in the same position all you need to do is leave him. Life may seem sad and impossible without him but it is the cold hard truth and one you have moved on you will eventually see that it was the best decision that you made. Good luck, you don't need him.
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