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writes:I'm 19 and the guy I'm after is 20. We've known each other for about a month and a half now and I don't think I've gotten anywhere with him. At first, I think I came on a little too strongly and then I had to calm down for a while and wait until he was okay again to even look at me and now I'm back at square one in the hopes that I don't screw up again. How do I get him to start going after me now? Because, as pathetic as this sounds, I would say yes to him tomorrow! I just like him a lot and I find him to be very attractive and funny and smart and oddly enough, his laugh turns me on but keeps me at ease. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): Well, you DID (sort of) invite him out by asking him if he wanted to meet somewhere. If he really did think he'd like to hang out with you, believe you me, he would have said something such as "okay, where would you like to go?"
See, he DID get the message that you like him, but unless he responds more positively, there's not much you can do. The ball's in his court.
Even more telling is the fact that he deleted you from his list of friends. Not at all a good sign, unfortunately!
Just be pleasant when you see him at class, but don't mention getting together again! To bring it up again will only give him the impression you're overeager.....(and when you tell us you'd say "yes" to him tomorrow, he probably senses that anyway - body language and all that - men (women, too) tend to notice such attitudes!)
IF (and at this point its a big IF) he wants to meet you for a drink or coffee, or lunch, HE will suggest it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): Well, that's the thing: I asked him if he wanted to meet up somewhere (at this point, we were friends on MySpace for like two days) and then later that second day, I find that he deleted me from his friend's list. After that, I became confused and a little annoyed. We do have mutual friends, but it's kind of "down the line" - I'm not really sure how to explain that one. And we know each other from Speech class. We're in a small group thing together that ends the beginning of May and I basically just want to be with him. Insanely badly.
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (20 March 2009):
 How did you come on too strongly in the beginning, and how did he respond? From what you've said so far it sounds like he reacted a little awkwardly? Do you have any mutual friends?Where do you know this guy from?It sounds like you've already given him some signals that you're interested, maybe as you say - the wrong kind of signals. So unless you want to be direct and just ask him if he wants to hang out on the weekend, you'll need to provide a little more information on the situation so we can concoct a plan!
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