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writes:Okay i am 18 years old and i am a virgin. It sucks cus i dont really want the guy i first have sex with to know that. Can i hide it somehow? Would the shower work? It could wash down the drain so it wont leave me in the "spur of the embarrased moment". I just want to shove a tampoon up there and pop it myself. Its so weird and i dont want to be asked "what is that?" cus i hadnt told anybody about my situation yet. I put myself out there like im not a virgin. Cus who wants to just come out and tell every guy you date? Nothing ever happens. Cus also the scare of getting pregnent comes to me. and that just worries the fuck outta me. Nothings 100 percent. Theres always a small percent. and why should i take that chance? But i want too. Sex seems so fun. And enjoyable. And ive been so stressed. Maybe it will calm me down and help me relax. When i find the right guy of course. :] Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): When I went out with my boyfriend he told me later he could tell I never been in a relationship 2,3 dates in! I was horrified as I never knew I gave myself away that easily. You may be the same
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reader, Neboraic  +, writes (11 July 2010):
If you find the right guy then you should tell him, if he is the right guy, he wont care.
Also, a lot of guys like girls to be virgins, many think girls who have had a lot of sex are dirty so they welcome virgins.
Also guys take pride in being the first.
Ad hes probably had to deal with he blood once before
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reader, Reaper94 +, writes (11 July 2010):
You shouldn't hide it, he'll probably be honored that you chose him to take your virginity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): Sweety, the guy you give your virginity to really should know you're a virgin. Even if he's an anonymous, casual partner. It's actually not so bad to lose it that way, not even knowing the guy's name and never seeing him again. But hopefully he's an older guy who knows what he's doing, and how to make it easy for you, and he won't do that if he don't know.
But it sound like you expect sex to fix some problems that it won't. Think about it and why you doing it before you have sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): your cherry could have already been poped if you use tampons or masterbait but if he ask why its so tight or why you bleed just tell him you havnt had sex in almost a year for whatever reason.
although its probably better he knows your a virgin so hes not to rough on you sence it will uncomftorbal or even painful.
good luck XO
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reader, Odds +, writes (11 July 2010):
 Losing your virginity will not help you calm down and lose stress. You will be saddled with a whole new batch of emotions over the guy who did it. That said, telling him you are a virgin will probably just make him want you more.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 July 2010):
 Why should you keep it a secret with your first lover ? it's no shame being a virgin at only 18, at most it shows you are selective in your choices . Plus , your partner may find that both endearing and erotic. ( What kind of guy is the one who would say " OH so you are a virgin, then let's not bother, it's too much work "? A total moron !) Then, when you have sex with someone, particularly the first time !, you are supposed to have with him a certain degree of confidence and complicity and trust- ( without it it won't be so fun after all ) so you should be comfortable revealing him intimate facts about yourself. Moreover, it's true that half of the times there's no blood and no pain , and men can't tell the difference, but if you do instead feel discomfort , you should not have to just grin and bear- you should be able to direct the show, and tell him to go slower, or to stop ,etc.
Forget about what other people may think, and just make it enjoyable and comfortable for yourself !
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reader, a113yx8 +, writes (11 July 2010):
I did the same thing. When I first started talking to the guy who I lost it to I told him I wasn't a virgin (but I was) because I didn't see us going anywhere. But obviously, we did but what happened was we were together alone and we were kissing and he was ready to go further. Thing is, I was on my period but he was ready so he didn't care. We actually tried the shower, that most likely wont work your first time, well it didn't for me. So maybe just do it on your period if thats not out of the question for you or him... If not, maybe just tell him the truth, if not you may regrett it. I ended up telling the guy just recently actually (3 years later) and he was surprised and just was like wow why didn;t u tell me?.... Anyways goodluck:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): you could simply try not to act like a virgin and not react to any possible pain or tightness the first time you have sex. Oh and its not a guarntee that you will bleed your first time, some do some don't, I didn't so I wouldn't worry too much about it.
However my advice to you would be to not hide it at all. Personally I think you will come out better by not hiding it. A lot of guys are into virgins and find it not only enduring but incredibly sexy.
But if you don't want to confess the fact that you're a virgin, just simply don't tell the guy you have sex with. there's no law saying you have to reveal your virginal status to your sexual partner; let him figure it out on his own lol.
9 times out of 10 if you relax and simply enjoy the experience he won't even know! good luck
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