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writes:MOD NOTE: poster age stated as 26, believe that is incorrect based on the info in this post.Okay here's a classic:How can I hide birth control from my mom?I know, I know. Half of you will read this and be like "Honey, you shouldn't hide this from your mom, talk to her..."Well, for me that is simply NOT an option. She's told me before that if I was living in her house and came to her for birth control she'd make me break up with whoever I was with at the time and would put me on lock down. She is not understanding. I am in love with my current boyfriend. He has not pressured me at all, he's even told me that he'd be perfectly willing to wait until we're married. I myself feel absolutely ready. I want to be as physically close to him as possible, not to mention the emotional closeness i feel this will bring us. I also want to be as well prepared as possible, with the pill and the use of male condoms. Getting the pill is not a problem. You can get them anonymously at any family planning clinic. Also paying is not a problem, my boyfriend and I will both pay half of the price for the pill. It's simply keeping out of my mom's knowledge that is the problem here.I don't want to hear:"You're too young and should obey your mother.""It won't bring you emotional closenes, it didn't for me."Or any form of criticism or anything along the lines fo being judged. I have made up my mind on what I will do. Offer assistance or please don't say anything at all. I really just want some ideas here. I will be forever greatful to anyone that helps me with this.
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reader, pebble  +, writes (7 June 2009):
 Well yeah, in an ideal world that is what all parents would do, but reality check time, this world is not ideal.
Everyone has their flaws, even you, and the poster is just trying to make the best of a bad situation. How you can think that inflicting violence on her own mother is an acceptable solution to this problem is beyond me. Anyone can see it would cause ten times more problems than what was there in the first place.
But anyway, good luck to you poster :)
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (7 June 2009):
 You could just put one letter, or a scramble of letters because then it looks like you have just left your phone unlocked and have set a reminder by accident. Can you set it to vibrate too, then it won't be as obvious it could just look like you received a text. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): Dear pebble if i had chidren i would give them no reason to want to hit me. If they want sex and need help i myself would buy the pills or condoms. That is what a loving parent would do. Support thier childs decisions in life. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionKellyxxx you're totally right. It's going to be like a little joke for myself because i'm going to pick some weird code word for the alarm to say so i know what it's for haha. You really have been a huge help. And so has everyone else too. Pebble you're right, and she reminds me all the time. It's her house. Plus, hitting her would only get me hit back. She's MUCH bigger than I am haha. But thanks to those who put forth some understanding for how i feel too. It was supportive. I often times feel like hitting her, but that is totally not a good idea for me to do. It's still good to know that i'm not the only one who thinks I should do that hahaha.
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reader, pebble +, writes (6 June 2009):
You can't stop a mother from searching in her own house. I'm not saying it's right, it most certainly isn't but it's the mother's house. She can do what she wants there.
Some mothers are just like that. Mine is. The poster understands that hers is. It's like that until you move out of the house and get your own space.
The poster seems to get that there's not much she can do. She just wants a way to get around it without upsetting her mother or having her mother upsetting her. She's being as sensible as possible given the situation.
I hardly think that advisng the poster to HIT her own mother is going to make the situation much better is it? Yeah, because causing violence is going to stop her being so nosey. I really don't think so. And I hope you didn't do that to your mom or have your kids do that to you.
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (6 June 2009):
 Why don't you have the implant.
Its a small peice of wire that gets placed into a vein in your arm and lasts for 3 years and then you don't have to hide pills from your mum. The implant sounds painful but believe me its not at all.
If you really want to stay on the pill then you could hide them in a secret pocket in a bag under your bed. I kept mine between my dvds and in and old christmas card which i put under my bed.
Livia
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): she makes her own rights? babe you are 16 please tell this insensitive,thoughtless woman to get a reality check.and once again kellyxxx has the answer. x
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (6 June 2009):
Have you got a calender on your phone? You could set a reminder on there for the same time evryday to take it. Or pick a show on tv which is on everyday and watch it then tale your pill after it. There's not really a way of remembering where the pill is but once its under the rug you should remember, everytime you see the rug it will trigger the memory. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNope, no hoovering for my family! haha, plus the rug is pinned down under the desk so it's not easily moved anyway, it'll be perfect for what i'm looking for though.
Can y'all think of any ways I can keep myself reminded about the pills under the rug?
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (5 June 2009):
The rug sounds good becasue then she won't stand on them, does she hoover your room though? And does she lift the rug? If she hoovers then offer to start doing chores and just say you'd like to take some of the load. That way she won't have to hoover your room! Keep it neat and tidy so she has no reason to look! X
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI actually do have a rug that runs down the middle of my room right up under a desk in my room. I'll hide them under the rug under the desk! If that sounds good? I think so, let me know. But thanks so much to all of you, I agree that my mom has no right but it seems she makes her own rights. You were all extremely helpful.
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reader, pebble +, writes (5 June 2009):
Hiya, when I was a few years younger I had like a 'safe' box, a metal, really secure lockable box that I kept my pills, my diary and tampons (they were frowned upon in my house too lol). I kept the key in the little zippy sanitary pocket in my handbag. I think you can get boxes like that from most stationary shops.
Then I hid the box at the very top of my wardrobe behind a bunch of shoe boxes (in one of the shoe boxes might be a better idea). It was a bit of a pain having to dig it out every morning but it was worth not having the hassel of her finding them and questioning me lol.
I really feel for you. Even now that I have my own house I still don't feel comfortable putting those kind of things in my bathroom cabinet or my bathroom shelves incase mum sees them. Because she would totally look through there and confront me. At least now though I can have a drawer dedicated to them in my bedroom.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): Your mum has no right to do what you said she would do and if she tries. .hit her. And kellyxxx nailed the answer for hiding the pills babe but i suggest hide them in your favourite cd case with the cd x
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (5 June 2009):
How often do you see your boyfriend? If you see him everyday you could ask him to keep hold of them? You could put each of the tablet packets under a rug if you have one (needs to be quite thick though) its just a matter of looking around your room and thinking hard about where she is least likely to go. If you really can't find anywhere just keep one pack on you at all times and keep the other packs at your boyfriends. Have you talked to a doctor about how to take it and things like that? X
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes my age is wrong. I accidentally clicked the wrong birth year. I'm 16. Sorry about that. And thanks! to kellyxxx. All very helpful ideas. Please keep the creativeness coming. She's a searching mother so I need very creative places, please.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (5 June 2009):
Keep in in a handbag at all times, put it inside a sock in a drawer of socks, hide the pill packets inside a dvd case and put the dvd somewhere she won't think of going, put the pill packets inside a boot and put the boots at the bottom of a wardrobe, get a box which you can lock (such as a jewellery box!) Always keep the pills in the packets and in their original box!! (That way its easy to monitor them! If you have a divan bed you could put them under that! You could put them behind a piece of furniture..... Hope this helps. X
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