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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:My friend has a guy. He's a year older than us, and unofficially regarded as THE best looking guy in his year. There was a bit of competition to see who would get him as there were quite a lot of girls who wanted him. My friend hung out with him a couple of times and told me one Friday that she really liked him was going to ask him out.The next week she told me that he'd come over that weekend. She'd asked him and he said that he didn't want a serious relationship. He asked her for a open relationship. She'd said yes. They'd gone pretty far that day, and almost had sex. But since then she signed up for the pill and they're now having sex on a regular basis.My problem is this: From what I can gather from talking to her, she really does like (possibly love) him, and the only reason she's going along with the idea she's fine with an open relationship is because she likes him so much, though she won't admit it. I also get the feeling that she doesn't particularly want to have sex so often, and only does because he wants to. I also know that he has quite the reputation for sleeping around, and she knows this too, but she's being almost ignorant about it. Once, she also confided in my that she doesn't feel like she'll ever be loved, and I don't see how being in such an unhealthy relationship will help her, in anything, it will make her feel worse.She's only 16, and personally I think it's too young for her to be having sex, let alone in a relationship where he doesn't care about her that way.I'm sorry for ranting, but I'm really confused about what to do. I don't feel like I can talk to her, because I told her before she slept with him to save virginity for someone who cared about her, and she called me 'cute' and old fashioned. I've tried being a good friend - I even went with her to get the pill, but I've reached a breaking point and don't think I can support her descisions and choices anymore. We used to be best friends but ever since this guy came along there's a wedge that been driven between us and we don't even talk as much as we used to. I'm scared that we're going to go seperate ways and I'm going to lose her forever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2011):
She knows the situation. The guy has been honest with her about what he wants and what he does not. There is nothing more that can be done.
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