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writes:I know a man who is much older than me, and he winks at me every time he sees me, and he always says i am special, and he said that if he was 20 years younger, he would go after me. He also knew about this guy who treated me badly once, and he said that he would never treat me like that. Do you think he is attracted to me, or could he just be being friendly ?. I really enjoy his company. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 May 2011):
 could be either or... that's the problem... some people are just natural flirts and don't mean anything by it.
but if you are interested you should let him know that you're receptive to his advances
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reader, Smileypants +, writes (23 May 2011):
 I think he's "throwing it out there" to see what you would think about it. If you like him as possibly more than a friend, and you're both single...why not?? You may enjoy being with a guy older and more mature than your age group. Age gap relationships can have some issues, but nothing insurmountable if you two are well matched.
Good luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011): I said the same, almost exact things to a girl who was 13 years younger than me. I most definitely wanted something to develop. He is most probably suggesting the same. There is nothing wrong with it as long as he is available, but keep in mind there will be significant differences between you if you turn this into a long term thing. Few couples can deal with the age gap thing well. The younger one is often the object of desire and often gets little respect. The older one will be dominant (usually) and will probably always hold the seniority thing over you (I'm more experienced, educated, successful, whatever).
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reader, sarah1993powell +, writes (22 May 2011):
What's the wink like, is it a flirty wink? It would be hard to know whether he's being friendly or not. He could just have a caring nature, or does genuinely have feelings for you. Why not ask him? Only if you like him ofcourse x
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 May 2011):
 He is more than friendly and basically saying whenever you are ready he is. He is testing whether you find this age gap acceptable. If he's not married and he's nice, there is no harm in being his friend and more. He is only making hypothetical questions just so that he won't come on too strong or appear to be a creep. As far as he's concerned, there is nothing wrong with liking a young girl.
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