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writes:My friend is in depression and needs help. I am the ONLY person that knows all of her secrets. We both struggle with some of the same problems, and this is why we are so close. She has a crush on this guy in my class, J, and wants to go out with him. I told her I will try to help. I love her so much, and will do ANYTHING for her. How can I get J to ask her out?
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reader, Joseph W. South  +, writes (28 October 2007):
 The best thing to do in this case is a fun group activity where you can invite the two of them. Then she needs to hover in his vicinity and hopefully say hello to him. You can't MAKE him ask her out.
As for the depression part, you are not a medical doctor I presume so encourage her to speak to a trusted doctor for a
referral to either a psychologist or a psychiatrist, depending on her needs.
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reader, elliebellie  +, writes (28 October 2007):
i dont want to be mean to your friend or you but the only way you friend will be happier is when she starts talking to j. j isnt going to know how your friend feels about him unless they both start talking. you shudnt ask j to ask your friend out cus then hell think that your mate cant do anything herself. get them to start talking so j can get to know her and then c how things are after that. hope this helps
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ellie
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reader, kenny +, writes (28 October 2007):
 Are you sure she is in depression and not just a little stressed over what to do about J. Personally i don't think you should ask him to ask your friend out, i know you want to help but really i think this will not benefit your mate. I think she has got to build up the courage and do it herself. If you do it for her this guy is just going to think your friend is unconfident. I think you will be more of a help to her if you try to build her confidence point her in the direction of making a move on this guy herself. J will think alot more of her if she asked him out than if, than if you were droping hints to him about her.
Take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2007): Go up to him and ask him if he wants to go out with your friend, or pass him a note
He may say yes or no.
Remember if he says no, your friend will be more unhappy.
True depression can be a debilitating illness.
You need to determine if she is just a bit sad because she can't get J to be her boyfriend.
If its true depression she needs to see the doctor.
Type in SYMPTOMS OF DEPRESSION into Google to find what to look out for.
You sound like a Good friend to her.
Good look
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