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writes:I have this friend that I'm really worried about.She has really deep feelings for this guy. She kinda had a thing for him for a while but since about June she's had really deep feelings for this guy. but he's now got a girlfriend and they both seem quite serious about each other. She found out in later august early septemper, but they've been seeing each other since may. she really cares, but theres the fact that he has a girlfriend and theres a 5 year age difference between them. from what she makes out, she feels as though he's the one and that no one else will do. im worried because its gotten to a stage where she litrally cares about no one but him and the rest of the things in her life don't seem to matter at all. she's also been spending a lot of time on her own in her bedroom hardly speaking to her family.Also her friends aren't very supportive with her and the way shes feeling and she spends little time with them. she's also finding it hard to speak to her mum about it cuz most of the time she basically gets told "move on" and she feels as though her mum doesn't understand how she feels about him. i really don't know what to do because she just feels so low about everything. please helpMike x
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reader, Jodie_Babe +, writes (10 January 2010):
 You have to try your best to get her into a situation where she is just with you.
Listen and take on board everything she says.
But try to tell her not to "move on" but try her best to be herself, and tell her that no man should ever be able to change you - because I'm sure he wouldn't like this new you - as much as I don't and if she asks why you don't say because your just not yourself anymore you are just closing off from everything.
She just needs a wake up call I think - from a close friend who cares like you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 January 2010):
Invite her out and just get her talking. If she's shutting herself away this more, chances are she's depressed. She can't have him, but she can't hear that because she loves him so much. So all you can do is listen. Don't offer advice, just listen to her and be there.
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