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writes:My friend was married and now she has devorced her husband because the husband was cheating with her friend he got pregnant ,how should i help my friend to go through the devorce anger ,loss and loneliness ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2012): Hello, I am sorry for your friend. She must be devastated, but the number one thing she needs to understand, that the cheating has nothing to do with her. As a man, you know that most men cheat because they just want to sample a new flavour, not because their woman is a bad person or terrible in bed. She needs to understand that both people were very disrespectful towards her and she doesn't need that kind of company.Now, i shall be honest. Deep down inside, a man wants to be a woman's "saviour, protector and/or knight in shining armour" because he would not mind being sexually with her. Advise her to seek counseling, get her involved in group activities in the community, gym, etc. She might start to rely on you more, which you might want, but women are fickle. Don't make the first move, be there for her. If she makes a move, sensually and softly hold her at bay. Let her know that you are attracted to her, then ask her on an official date. Wait 5 dates, yes.....because she has witnessed how a man's lack of self discipline around her friends have created havoc, she won't want that again. If you give in too easily to her, so will you with other women. and she doesn't deserve to have her heart broken again, at least not so soon.Good Luck
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reader, MAEJ2117  +, writes (26 February 2012):
The only thing you can do is be there for her for as long as she needs someone. Be that shoulder that she can cry on, the ears she can open up to. Divorce is something that no-one wants to be on the wrong side of. Just be there for her and just try to carry on as normal.
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