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writes:My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about 10 months now and we've been together for over a year. We love each other dearly and we plan on being together long term. The problem is that there are only two ways I can make him cum: giving him a blowjob, or sex without a condom. I'm on birth control, but he's really afraid of me getting pregnant, which is understandable. The problem isn't in the BJ thing, because I love giving him BJs and I do it a few times a week. The problem is that when having sex, because we use condoms now, he can't cum. I feel bad, because I really love to make him cum and make him feel good. I can't blow him afterwards because the taste of latex on his penis literally makes me vomit (no joke). Any suggestions on how I can make him cum during sex while still using condoms?
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (13 November 2012):
 Why don't you two start using spermicide? That way you can still have the two-methods of Birth Control protection, and after your STI workups, you can stop using condoms.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell my boyfriend is super easily worried and he doesn't want to stop using condoms despite the fact that I'm on oral contraceptives. It makes him nervous and he just won't do it. So, while I would actually rather not use condoms, he feels like he should.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2012): "So I didn't that was a common thing."
Yeah it's the most common way OP. Most women are clit stim, but then again there's no reason they shouldn't stimulate it during sex either.
I would consider what Gabrielle said OP. While I think both condom and the pill is a very safe way of going about things I only think the condom is necessary at the same time as the pill as means of protecting against STD's. The pill on its own is very effective as a means of birth control. I've been having sexual relationships a long time OP and only have never made a girl pregnant, even the couple of times I made a drunken mistake and went bareback when the girl wasn't on any form of contraception.
Look I'm not going to advise to be less safe but do know it's an option not to use the condom. If you were to decide to go down that route then you should both get full STD work ups first. It doesn't matter whether you were both virgins either, it's just a precautionary measure.
Otherwise don't worry about it, just finish him off, plus understand that if he can make you orgasm multiple times then he's a very happy man. That is afterall one of the best feelings a guy can get and one of the main reasons we love sex. Our orgasm only lasts about 5 seconds OP, why would we do any of the rest of it for a 5 second orgasm if the whole thing didn't feel awesome?
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (12 November 2012):
 I guess in all the drama and fuss that is made about the female O, the male orgasm is a somewhat neglected thing. Which is unfortunate, because it's not as easy for guys as it's often portrayed, in my experience. So if your guy can't cum with a condom, in the short run I don't think there's much you can do about it, though the idea of requesting him to masturbate with a condom may help.
The only practical suggestion I can think of is for you to finish him by hand after you've had your orgasm. Maybe if he washes mid-sex you can give him the BJ?
Ultimately I guess it's a call you need to take. Oral contraceptives (which I presume you are using) are a tried and trusted (though no method is fail-safe) method of birth control, so maybe you should consider whether the rubber is really neccessary?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh see, I have multiple orgasms during sex, he never has to finish me off afterward. So I didn't that was a common thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2012): You can't really OP, some guys just can't cum with condoms on. You could try ultra thin ones, they're called featherlite here.
Just so you know cumming isn't necessary for great sex OP. I mean do you orgasm every time? If you do then lucky you but chances are you don't and it doesn't make sex any less great does it? The same applies to us guys OP. OP just have him pull out take off the condom and let finish on your body (tits, belly etc.), or maybe you finish him off with your with his hand. I mean most of us guys have to finish our girlfriends off after sex if they want an orgasm seeing as penetration alone usually doesn't do it. It's not that big a deal if he has to do it too.
The only important thing here is that you do get him off, it doesn't have to be during sex OP. It can be after sex too, just ask him when he's ready to just pull out and cum on your breasts, that's a lot of fun for us guys.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (11 November 2012):
Have him masturbate using condoms from now on, using lube. This will train him to be more sensitive and to recognize and sexualize the sensations better. It will take some time, maybe a month or two (longer if he cheats) but eventually he should be able to orgasm with a condom on.
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