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writes:Hi, me and my boyfriend have been together for 17 months. We were living together for 6 months but i just recently moved out because since october, he has been resenting me and has lots of anger towards me. The only times i can think of him being angry at me are during the summer. During the summer, i got sick and we couldn't really go out like we used too, so i know that bothered him. His kids also came to stay with us for a week and I didn't really know how to deal with that because I am very shy. So the whole time they were there i felt like he was judging every action that I did. I did my best and towards the end of their stay we had a great time. We also had another little stupid argument where we went to a fair with his son and we got into a fight over having my picture taken. I remember i walked off and sat down on the bench to collect my thoughts and i guess he took that as me being dramatic. He said i made him look stupid in front of his son and his son's friend. But even after that event, he forgave me and would say he understood and went back to acting like he usually does, saying how much he loves me and stuff like that. Even our anniversary in September he wrote me a card about how much he loves me and couldn't wait for more anniversaries with me. But since October when he first told me about his resentment towards me, we have been spending time apart and still nothing has changed. He is harboring all this anger towards me and it is destroying our relationship because he thinks negatively about me and about us. Its gotten to the point where he thinks we aren't right for each-other because during our time apart he hasn't missed me like he usually does, and he doesn't feel like hes in love with me. (I of course have been texting him everyday and probably made things worse) Whenever i talk to him I tell him that since he is resenting me, he is not going to miss me and feel like hes in love with me because he is so angry at me. He is the love of my life and he has told me many times that i am his and his one true love. How do I get him to stop resenting me, so that we can get our relationship back to how it was where he was crazy about me and he was so in love with me? What can i do about this?
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reader, atalossxx +, writes (6 February 2012):
Why would he keep dragging me on though and keep telling me that we need time apart so that he can get over his anger? He also keeps telling me that once he is over his anger and resentment we can talk again and work things out. It just doesn't make sense.
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reader, Zebramoose +, writes (6 February 2012):
Short and sweet: You sound like a really nice person who cares too much about someone who is emotionally abusive. It's time to rebound. At the very least, a fling will help you boost that hurting confidence of yours. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
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reader, Uncle_Unsparing +, writes (6 February 2012):
"Its gotten to the point where he thinks we aren't right for each-other because during our time apart he hasn't missed me like he usually does, and he doesn't feel like hes in love with me."What part of "get lost, I don't want to be with you anymore" do you not understand?"He is the love of my life and he has told me many times that i am his and his one true love."How many times has he SHOWN you he is your true love through his actions, as opposed to telling you. "How do I get him to stop resenting me, so that we can get our relationship back to how it was where he was crazy about me and he was so in love with me?" You can't "get him" to do anything and very likely he was never "crazy in love" with you, just told you what he knew you wanted to hear in order to get into your pants. "What can i do about this?" Nothing. Why would you even want to "do" anything? For the past four months he's been by your account "angry and resentful" without explanation, treating you like a doormat
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2012): No, he has not told me what he specifically resents me for, only that he has anger and resentment towards me.
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