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*ndy00
writes:Hi. Having asked a question recently, it's comforting to know that people feel the same as I do, in that there are others out there who simply hate single life. That's left me to ask, what might people like us be doing wrong?I wish I knew what, if anything, I'm doing wrong with women. A lot of people say that I'm probably not doing anything wrong and it's not my fault, but yet so many more people I know don't seem to have any trouble at all. Maybe I wouldn't crave a relationship as much as I do if I got a little sex every now and again, but it never seems to happen often enough for me.As of now, I haven't had sex in over 4 months. The longest dry spell I had (sex wise) lasted for a year and three months. This came after my first girlfriend left me after 2 years together. Then I had a fling back in August, and then I had a brief, 3 month relationship with a girl on my course at university which ended in December and here I am today.Is there anything I can do when I go out to increase my chances, or is it really just a case of accepting my lack of luck with ladies and hope that it comes along some time in the near future?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): I'm not convinced this is a problem. First, everyone and everything goes through stages. Plus how fair is it to assume it's something negative on your part? Without having directly interacted with you, most posters are likely without viable and specific guidance for you.
I would start by reflecting on history: what are the common and independent claims exes have relative to the relationship dissolvement. Then, I would definitely ask a current person who just created distance or ended the dating: what her reasoning is for not pursuing a relationship, and to please honestly answer as a favor.
We could all theorize until Christmas the basics of wooing females, but without having shared a glass of wine with you, I think your best bet is to pull of off historical and current data.
Maybe this is a good idea though: I'll start a post to help men by asking women to say their number one turn-offs and turn-ons about men...
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reader, niki20  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 luck w/ladies has nothing to do w/ it. the way a man carries himself, what the guy says and if he comes on to strong all go into the dating world. body language says alot to...is your srance while talking to a girl overpowering? simple things can blow a chance....exspecially if she catches you staring at her boobs. if you greet her with a smile, thats a good start, compliment on a simple thing "you look good tonight," chances are if she looks great, she put effort into her look. apprpach her slowly, take things slow.
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