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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Lately a couple of guys have asked me out, but i just seem to push them away. I think its because of my previous experience with my ex who was just using me. Everytime a guy talks to me or wants to meet up i automatically think oh hes trying to take advantage of me or he thinks im easy. I cant get this out of my head and i feel like im missing out on opportunities. Guys my age only seem to be after one thing, from my experience and i just cant get out of that mindset. Im worried that i'll never be able to have a relationship if in my head im always questioning the guys motives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2013): Hi there!
Well its only normal.
There are some people who was able to learned their lesson based on personal experienced so well.
Its an awful experienced that you don't want to happen again.
Your just being careful.
Which is good. because a man who is serious about you, will be patient, will never leave, will stay with you, will understand you and will be willing to take a chance on you.
If these guys you've push away, give up too soon, it only means that they are exactly what you think they are.
To me your doing what is right.
But just don't be too uptight. sometimes we need to light up a little. Don't forget to have fun.
If your not ready for a relationship, I'm sure your ready to date. Just take things slow and change the subject if the guy is insisting to be more than friends immediately.
You don't have to push them away. just keep a friendly environment.
You know what? your exactly what guys like.
if you know how to play your cards well, your a dream girl.
why? Because girls who does not want a relationship means-No pressure, no bugging, no nagging, no asking, no commitment, just pure fun.
You will be every man's fear of his manhood. They will start to question their self. Like am i not too appealing?why is she rejecting me? Who does she think she is? she isn't calling me? No text no call, who is she? lol.
that's funny.
Just have fun and enjoy life.
You know when its time to get serious.
If a guy is not putting you in a place where in you have to wonder, chemistry is great, no confusion, you never find yourself asking here about a guy then he must be IT.
For now just have FUN.
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2013): You don't have to be serious, or be in a relationship with a guy; until you really feel comfortable. I really think you should judge each guy individually, and on his own merit.
It's childish and not wise to lump all guys into the same category; because you have had bad luck with the few guys you've been with, of your own choosing.
You're right. You're not ready for a relationship, until you are mature enough to know; like yourself, no one is perfect.
You are going to experience issues with each guy you meet; but you have to have your own act together. They have to deal with your insecurities, negative opinions, and anti-male attitude. That's prejudiced.
You have trust issues; so you wouldn't be a good choice for anyone else right now.
Take your time to get to know a boy. Don't judge him beforehand. Being negative reflects badly on you, and makes you the one who is likely to be more of a problem in a relationship. So work on it.
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