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writes:How can I handle the monotony and boredom of everyday life.:?Days off have no purpose, but I go to gym, I get a coffee, I see a movie..Me alone and counting the hours til bedtime.. Reply to this Question
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (8 June 2018):
 It's Saturday, What are you going to do today?
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reader, malvern  +, writes (6 June 2018):
 You need to join something. You could go and do something voluntarily like work in a charity shop or, if you like animals, go along to a local animal sanctuary and offer your help. I was in a similar situation in my twenties, and again later in my early forties when I got divorced. That's when I forced myself to go out and I joined a local dancing club. There are dancing places where you can go along on your own such as Salsa classes, French Jive, even Line dancing and you will make friends. Gradually your life will change and you will have new friends. You cannot spend your life on your own being miserable so be brave and get out there and have a go because you've nothing to lose and everything to gain.
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reader, TylerSage +, writes (6 June 2018):
 It sounds as if you're waiting for something....
Don't fool yourself into thinking a prince will come and sweep you off your feet like in those Hollywood movies.
I once read a book by Steven Chandler called "Reinventing Yourself" which had chapters that spoke about sadness and boredom. It pretty much said sadness is just a type of fatigue from a life lacking change and new experiences.
Implement change in your life, and you'll be happy.
Surely there are different things you want to try that you aren't doing. But once you do you will feel a rush of accomplishment and that accomplishment signifies growth and growth leads to happiness because you've overcome a problem.
I suggest you make a list. A sincere list of goals you want to achieve in your life and work towards them like bungee jumping, visiting Paris, getting a new haircut, quitting your job, talking to that cute guy in accounting etc. You could even start small and make a list of goals for the week or the month, maybe it's to buy a new wardrobe, try a new bar, go across town for lunch, join a karate class, play hookie with friends etc. The more you do things that aren't like you at all, the more you gain a rush of excitement.
This is the only life you have. Better isn't coming unless you start making "better" happen right now.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2018): [EDIT]:
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"The public-exposure will also find you friends; and introduce you to interesting people with ideas that help you to find something to do with all your idle-time."
"You're a survivor; in spite of so many people who just give-up, and do nothing but complain."
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2018): Life gains purpose when you give your time and energy to help others. You make friends and acquaintances with people who are givers and doers.
You rediscover yourself, by finding ways to challenge your mind and body. You expose your hidden-talents. The public exposure also will find you friends and introduce you to interesting people with ideas that help you to find something to do with all you idle-time.
By the way; be grateful for your health and a sound-mind. You may be lonely; but your independence and self-reliance is also a gift. You're a survivor, in spite of so many people who just give-up and do nothing by complain.
Count your blessings, my dear!
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (6 June 2018):
"Ticking away the moments that make up a dull day
You fritter and waste the hours in an offhand way
Kicking around on a piece of ground in your home town
Waiting for someone or something to show you the way
Tired of lying in the sunshine staying home to watch the rain
You are young and life is long and there is time to kill today
And then one day you find ten years have got behind you
No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun" - Pink Floyd (time)
Here is the deal. It's up to you. You get to choose. I have 3 single Daughters. One spends her off time sitting on her bed reading and watching net flix. One does art and creating, she also volunteers with our community theater. The other works for resorts, she is currently in southern California. When she has days off she takes her friends kids out, or goes to the beach.
None of them would tell me that their life is boring or monotonous. But unlike you they have chosen things that interest them, and have filled their lives with those things.
Some people have a passion for coffee. Some people have a passion for Movies. Some people have a passion for exercise or sport. You have these things in your life but you don't have the Passion.
We can't give you passion, you have to find it in yourself.
PS have you talked to a Dr. about depression?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (5 June 2018):
 That sounds like what people do on their days off. Nothing wrong. Life is not like a Bollywood parade everyday. If you have boredom inside you, then you bring boredom to everything you do and everyone you meet. You can change your mindset to think what you do are life's simple pleasures. Or you can save up enough so you can travel. Sounds like you are not dating or have given up, why?
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