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writes:One of my friends found out I like this boy in my year she then told other people and now everyone in my year know that I like him. I've known this guy since I was around like 6/7 years old. Now everywhere I go people keep asking me "Do you like...?" Now its become really awkward between me and this guy because he wont tell me if he likes me or not, he just smiles and some people are saying he does and some saying he doesn't. I'm 15 and I don't really know what to do. I can't ignore it because everyone is talking about it, I really need some help and advice about this. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (28 June 2015):
 What you are doing, with my approach, is to show the askers just how immature their question is. You ignore the question entirely and point out to them how stupid they sound when they ask it. Reframes the situation, by putting you in the position of being the one who asks the question. The best defense is a good offense and you just need to put yourself in the role of the inquisitor.
You will really be grown up when you realize that other people aren't entitled to your private thoughts unless you share them.
High school is a minefield of crap like this, and the earlier you grow a thick skin and a sense of your own integrity and right to privacy, the better off you'll be.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 June 2015):
"Of course I like him, I've known him for ages. Why are you asking? Don't you like him?"
[blather back from the inquisitor....]
"Oh you mean do I LIKE him in that way? What are you, like 11 or something? What a little kid type of question."
[more blather back from the inquisitor...]
"I'm not avoiding the question, I'm just freaking out that you are so immature. I hope you figure things out soon."
Then you smile sweetly and walk off calmly and with a small laugh at how oddly childish your 15 year old friends are.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 June 2015):
 I agree with Wise,
Ignore the gossip. IF they ask, answer with a question (without answering their question).
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2015): Ignore all the gossip. It's already out there. Take advantage of the fact, and try and talk to the boy. Deep inside, you're kind of glad he knows.
If he just smiles and won't let you know one way or the other and just strings you along; just become disinterested. Just suddenly don't care. Start to ignore him, when he smiles. Just stare. That gets to boys, when a female fan suddenly isn't a fan anymore. He doesn't get to soak in your lovely sunshine without returning the favor.
Good luck!
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