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writes:I am 22 years old and I just got out of my first serious relationship with my ex. We went out for 6 months. Rumors were going around that she was having one night stands with random guys. I broke up with not because she cheated on me (although she never admitted it), but because we were having tons of immature fights. I still can't get her out of my head (this is 3 months later). I can't get over cheating on me.Since her, I have started to talk to other girls, but as you can imagine it is not the same. Girls have told me that I seem boring and cautious and loss interest in me. Also I know I am not greatest guy in bed and I'm not well endowed, so I can see why my ex had temptations to cheat on me. I can't move on and it is actually more than ridiculous! I feel like she took the man out of me and I can't get over it. Is there is any tips that anyone can give me? Should I just accept the fact that every girl is going to cheat on me and just live with it?
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (18 September 2011):
 Hi,Just because you had a bad apple doesn't mean all the apples you will have in the future will be bad. Common, you are very young, this is only your first serious relationship. You will have many more, rather you want or not. About you being well endowed, that doesn't matter, it's how you do that matters. Also, you are young, why do you think you have to be expert in bed? About your ex cheating? They are only rumors.... You don't know for a fact... People your age make up stories, and lie all the time. It's part of growing up. Please, don't let your ex girlfriend, the rumors, affect your self esteem. You sound like a perfect young man. Have nothing to worry about. I am older than you, so i've been through all the things that you are going through now. I think you are putting too much pressure on yourself. Just enjoy life, the experiences. There's nothing wrong with you. Be confident... Everything will be ok. As for meeting girls, of course you will compare to your ex, you are still attached to her, but eventually the feelings will fade, and when you least expect will all be gone. Meanwhile, don't force yourself to meet girls, date, but definitely make as many friends as you want. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): NO NO NO NO NO!! WHO TOLD YOU ITS OK TO BE CHEATED ON? No don't like with the fact that a girl will cheat on you. Guys cheat too. And they are equally bad. Make some confidence. Look, there was a girl whocheated with me do what I did.1) Destroy her In your thoughts - use any word you want to completely inult her, politically correct or not. Make sure you understand she is a waste of human space for cheating and that you deserve better2) Look, everyone on earth has someone bigger than them. In my experience, the only thing you need to be good in bed is to put the girl first. 3). Confidence. Act like a girl has the right to be with you rather than being really grateful she is there. She will want you more and pursue you. Then you will be kind to her and show her love.4) You are a man. You have man parts. You like girls. End of story5) Make a philosophy: If she cheats, I leave. Stick to it. And don't let ANYONE treat you badly. 6) Find a girl who is loyal and stick to her. Show her how much of a man you are. I usually help guys and girls get over a cheating significant other
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