A
male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:i like this girl right..lets name her A.. ok ive gone out with her for the past month or so. i really liked her. i mean REALLY really, loved her she seemd like the perfect person. Unfortunatly there is this other girl..named B..haha i got to know B a year ago ..whent out with her on 1 or 2 days, took her to movies, dinner, same things i do with both A and B. But B has been trying to come back after me for a few months and im really just to shy to go after her again so thats when i started going out with A.. its been good so far, but i cant understand how i DONT really like A anymore..(wierd i swore she would be the perfect girlfriend, i could even see us getting married) its like i keep thinking aobut B and how good friends we were and i wanted to get to know her so much more, she was awesome! But im tied down to A and i want to break up, but it seems that we are long time friends since toddlers and i know her parents really well--im just scared of what thier family would think if i broke up with her becuase i wasnt feeling it anymore, or even how i'm supposed to deal with her since we had a long friend ship.. (i hear relationships ruin friendships...i now understand)
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reader, jabey  +, writes (26 January 2007):
yes time to be straight and honest with miss A, you must try not to worry about what everyone will think goodness Im sure everyone will understand, we have all ben their. its lovely that you care so much about everyones feelings. But sometimes we have to do what is right for us. Honesty saves alot of hurt in the long run. If you are straight and explain you care for her as a dear friend and in time if she feel able to be your friend again that will be lovely.
Then make a go of it with Miss B. You are young dont worry, enjoy your new dating life, if your honest and decent noone will think badly of you. Take care and good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007): This is why I teach my daughters to not exclusively date. Exclusive dating should be when two ADULTS are wanting to be married and faithful to ONE person.
This is also why my home rule is no dating of any kind until you are 16.
Youth who date before this age have a greater chance of becoming sexually active as they confuse their feelings and mimick that exclusive dating is a form of being grown up and this in turn will speed them faster to engaging in sexual intercourse well before they are mature enough, educated enough, responsible enough to consider the consequences of their actions.
You are not adults, you are not married and you should most definitely not be enagaging in sexual intercourse.
Honesty is always the best policy and what you feel for A and B...is sure in the heck not love in the adult/marriage sense but more like crushes and warm feelings.
I do recall being 16 and I can assure you...I had no idea what love was but I sure in the heck did know that my girlfriends who were dating new bf's every week and having their hearts broken...wasn't it either.
Best Wishes.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (26 January 2007):
 The best advice I can give is to be honest with A. Explain to her that you really care for her as a friend and that your feelings aren't any more than that. Just be honest. Hopefully, she'll understand and you can remain friends.
Good luck!
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