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*abyxgirl
writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and two months. Before we decided to be in a relationship with each other, we were friends for three years. He had always liked me and was always trying to be my boyfriend. We fell in love and when I decided we should be together, we were both more than happy!We started spending every day together and neither of us thought it was a bad thing. All we wanted was to be together. He moved in with me and we lived together for a whole summer. We began arguing and disconnecting and it broke my heart to pieces. When he decided to move out, I cried and he comforted me and explained that he loves me and always wants to be with me but he needs his own space for now. I let him go and we were still spending every day together either at his place or mine. We both still enjoyed it but then more problems and arguments blew up. Then he suggested we needed to take space as individuals so that our relationship could heal and we could be happy again. I cried like crazy but I agreed. I was having a hard time with it. In my head I thought he didn't love me anymore or that he didn't care. When we argued, instead of showing me that he cared, he would walk away or be mean or even ignore me. This caused me to cling more and then we broke up. He didn't speak to me for a whole day and it drove me insane. The next morning we spoke and he said he wanted to be friends and that he would always love me and be there for me. I couldn't even take the thought of that in. I asked him if we could talk because I was honestly sorry for the way I had been acting and I wanted another chance at trying to work through our relationship and give space. He said okay and that night he came over, we spoke and ended up getting back together. We spent two nights together since then. Everything has been going great and I won't see him for another two days and after that for another three days. This is so hard for me and I don't know why. I feel like I lost my friends and when he is gone, my world crashes. I used to be independent and do things on m own but now I feel like I lost myself. How can I give my boyfriend space without going crazy? What can I do so that I won't start clinging onto him for dear life? I love him more than anything and I know he loves me. I couldn't stand to lose him. What can I do to get back on track with him and with myself? Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2011): i am going through the same thing. how you feel is reasonable for a girl and for guys it is almost impossible to feel like they are lost without you so don't think it is because he doesn't feel the same as you. what i did was ask my boyfriend to send me a text once a day that said i love you and/or something sweet so during the day when you get the feeling of being lost you can just look back at it and know hes right there even though your not together at the moment or talking.
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