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writes:Ok, so about 2 months ago I hooked up with this guy at a party. It was an extreme hookup... We didn't have sex but it made me seem like a really big slut. It was not like me at all. But that is besides the point. Point is that after this hookup my friend has been telling me about this guy and showing me pictures.. and now I can't stop thinking about him. He is perfect (in comparison to what I look for in a guy) and we have so much in common. Now, I don't know how I can start talking to him .. without him thinking that I am a total slut and that I am here just for hooking up. I really want to get to know him. Any advice would be awesome. Thanks so much! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much everyone! I'll try mustering up the courage and talking to him as soon as possible :)
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (14 November 2011):
 Yea contact him yourself. Arrange for coffee (avoid alcohol for now) and talk to him. Have a normal.convo and tell him you are single ask his status and if you two are genuinely interested in each other youll plan a date. This is action. Dont tell him youre not a slut in fact dont.bring it up. Just show the wee man u have good intention. If hes mature hell pick up on that. Good luck.
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reader, Kaiz  +, writes (14 November 2011):
Hey, you can't change his first impression of you that's permanent, but you can change his overall impression of you. Try starting a conversation with him, face to face would be better, only start with light conversation. You could use that night as a starter for conversation. Don't feel uncomfortable about it, have a laugh about it with him, tell him that's not what your usually like and make a joke out of it. When you speak to him be confident, don't refrain from saying certain things just be yourself. If this is the "perfect guy" for you, then he may as well experience the real you, just slowly and in small portions.
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