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writes: How can I get to know a guy better so he will like me? I'm 15, he's 16.We don' have any classes together and I don't really know his friends. I only know him a little like to say hi and talk a little when I see him at shows sometimes. I've talked to him a few times on instant message, but I feel weird if I don't have anything to say (I'm afraid to say the wrong thing and make him think I'm weird). We hung out once like 2 months ago and he told me he's scared of getting close to anyone because he got cheated on like a year ago. He said he backs off when he starts to like someone. Now this other girl is after him, but she's like a really loud person that hangs out with lots of boys and I am more quiet. Plus she cheated on her last boyfriend which I wouldn't think he'd like. I don't know how he feels about me or if he likes her. I know they are friends, but I think she wants more. Any tips, should I just come out and ask him what he thinks of me? Also, he knows I like him because one of my friends told one of his friends. Reply to this Question
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reader, emo_wishes +, writes (6 January 2006):
hey hunni,
right a great way to get chatting, without any embarrasement is maybe by instant messaging? You can ask questions you wouldent normally and they'll be no shyness. Once you've used this to break the ice then conversation will flow easily when you next get see each other face to face.
not much advice there im afraid, but hoped the tip helped! Good luck =) xxx
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (5 January 2006):
 I think if he knows you like him, you need to sit tight and wait. You don't want to seem to desperate. If he knows you like him and he likes you too, he should do the next bit of work. You're right, he probably won't go for the type of girl to cheat on him if he's been hurt before so you might be more his type of girl.
Just be yourself around him, don't be nervous and pretend to be anything you're not. I know it can sometimes be hard to find things to say but once you relax, you will. Get to know him more as a friend, make an effort to talk to him normally (no flirting yet!) and see how things go. You might go off him once you get to know him well!!!
Just take things slow, you're only 16. There'll be so many boys you're gonna like over the next few years, this will happen lots more times. Learn from this, be more confident and you will get the guy you want. Good luck
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