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writes:I know this may appear to be strange, but isn't it amazing the effect one can have on you when you hardly know them?There's this guy, he comes to my church, he knows my mum very well they get along, he's a family friend really, i hardly speak to him though, he's absoloutely gorgeous.For almost a year now he has caught my eye, we have exchanges of glances everytime we see eachother, gazing into one another's eyes and the other day i was out, he was in his friends car driving past me and he (in a very shy manner) waved and said hi for the first time, he acknowledged me which made me extremely happy!I just really want to get to know him better, i desire to be with him. Do i just start talking to him? Or just continue the stares? I know the places he spends his weekends because his friends are my friends, so i can go there every now and then and make a move? Please help guys! thanks!
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reader, Uncle Sneaker +, writes (10 June 2008):
 You are way ahead of most people trying to start to get to know each other because you have an interest, or at least an experience, in common - the church where you see him.
Starting with subjects as mundane as "weren't there a lot of people at the service today?" or "what did you think of that sermon?" gives you a head start. Of course, you could be in trouble if he replies "I only go because my mum insists" (unless you only go to the church because your mum insists too!), but at least you have something that you both know about to start talking over.
From your description of the way he looks at you, my guess would be that once you get him talking to you properly you'll have great difficulty in stopping him, shyness or not!
Let us know how you get on.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): see if he has any really close friends who are girls and see if they'll set you up with him. talk to him, just start a conversation a simple hi will do and build it up. don't continue the stares otherwise he might get a bit freaked. ohh if he has a sister just casually speak to her and see if she'll tell you something. keep us posted.
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (10 June 2008):
 I think you should go ahead and start a dialog with him, either through church (before or after services) or through your friends. It seems like the time is right. I think that if you can begin to associate with friends that associate with him, then use it. I would approach this gingerly and patiently since you describe him as being shy -- just don't be too aggressive.
Good luck!
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